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Feng Shui A Garden Just for You by Lois Kramer-Perez, C.Ht.

Feng Shui, meaning “Wind Water,” creates harmony by marrying the energy we can feel (wind) & physical spaces we can see (water). Using nature’s cycles & the five elements: Water, Tree, Fire, Earth, & Metal—Feng Shui cultivates a thriving life connected to our environment. A Feng Shui garden embodies this connection to nature.

The 5 elements influence us through seasons, colors, shapes, and behaviors.

 In spring, the Tree element energizes us with vibrant green colors of growth & new beginnings. This season inspires activities going outside, spring cleaning & the urge to get moving.

Summer, represented by Fire, is lively and passionate, with colors like red, yellow, and orange. It symbolizes peak energy, playfulness, and transformation, represented through bright accents and angular shapes.

As summer wanes, Earth’s energy encourages us to pause & nurture. Earth’s colors range from ivory to chocolate brown, and its shapes are sturdy rectangles and squares, providing comfort and stability.

Autumn introduces the Metal element, marking completion and refinement. Metal’s energy, represented by silver, gold, and white, is precise and controlled, with clean lines and stone features.

Winter embodies the Water element, a time for reflection and flow. Water’s colors are deep blues, turquoise, and black, with irregular, meandering shapes symbolizing adaptability and calm.

These elements cyclically support one another: Water nourishes Tree, Tree fuels Fire, Fire’s ash enriches Earth, Earth forms Metal, and Metal generates Water. We refer to the “*Bagua” the feng shui map of your space to specifically enhance areas using these 5 elements.

Create Your Feng Shui Garden: There’s a Dutch proverb that says, “If you want to be happy for a day, get drunk. If you want to be happy for a year, get married. But if you want to be happy for a lifetime, plant a garden”.

Natural Alignment: Use local plants, allow them to grow naturally. Plan for seasonal changes.

Form: Design using the “Armchair Form,” giving you the feeling your home & garden are being “hugged” as if your property was sitting in a giant armchair with a view of what’s in front. Use trees, shrubs or fences to create your “hug.”

Use curved paths with soft edges to direct the energy through your garden sharing the “graceful chi” in all spaces.

Front Garden: A garden in the front of your property welcomes visitors & is a gentle boundary between your home & the world. Be sure your trees or shrubs do not cover your front entrance or number on your house.

Water Features: Whether in the front or back garden, the water should always flow towards your house, bringing the flow of prosperity towards you.

Personal Expression: Create your garden to reflect your personality and passions.

Incorporate the 5 Elements: *The Feng Shui Bagua is a map that shows how different parts of your home or property relate to specific areas of your life & the elements which support them. Schedule your feng shui consultation for your personal bagua map and specific guidance for enhancements & placement of your water features.

Love your garden, as its beauty, harmony & joy nourish your life. Schedule your personal feng shui consultation contact Lois@LoisKramerPerez.com.

Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt. Certified Feng Shui, NLP, Past Life Regression & Energy Clearing Practitioner. Master Teacher Conscious Design Institute, Metaphysical Center of NJ  & London School of Feng Shui.

“Feng Shui Your Space and Your Soul, Create the Life You Deserve by Mastering the Art of Being Yourself.” schedule your free “discover your shui call” go to www.callwithlois.com. LoisKramerPerez.com

New Moon Solar Eclipse

New Moon Solar Eclipse New moons give you opportunities for creating a clean slate where potential awaits. In combination with the New Moon, the Solar Eclipse raises the frequency of energies & potentials.

Process Your Emotions: Sun blocked by the moon invites you to shine your light & go within yourself. You will release what is no longer needed, a feeling, a perception, a belief.

You will be inspired to embark on a new phase in life, doorways will open for you offering significant change. This is the end of a challenging cycle.

Rethink what you are doing, Restart your engines! You may find some unexpected rapid transformations and possible temporary disruptions & upheavals, go with the flow, ‘change is a comin,’

Decisions you make can have lasting effects, dig your roots in & go for it.

New Moon Solar Eclipse Ritual

Choose empowering ways of being you desire to replace any way of being, point of view , thought forms, unhealthy emotions or feelings towards something specific.

Write these in your journal.

Choose any point of view, thought forms, unhealthy emotions or feelings towards something specific. Write these on a 1 ply tissue or toilet paper, place in warm water & as you watch the paper & words dissolving, feel these dissolving in you.

Replace these as they dissolve, filling yourself with empowering ways of being.

You have the energy of the New Moon Solar Eclipse supporting you.

Are you interested in more ways to be the best you, Create the Life You Deserve, Master the Art of Being Yourself , Schedule your FREE Discover Your Shui Call CallWithLois.com

“20 Years of Illumination Beginning 2024”

You still have time to create a magnificent 2024. Start with lessons from Feng Shui, tapping into the wisdom following the Chinese astrology calendar. There are 2 dates of significance. First, the energy of the year changes on 2/4, “Early Spring.” In addition to the energy of the “Wood Dragon” we are beginning a new 20 year Feng Shui cycle.

First let’s examine the qualities of the “Wood Dragon” to understand the influence & potential he brings. Dragons are confident, smart enterprising strong leaders with a wicked sense of humor. They can be egotistical & eccentric, demanding the same high standards from others that they hold for themselves. The “Wood Dragon of 2024” is even more adventurous & thrives on action ready to explore new ideas. The energy of this “wood dragon” is the *fuel for the beginning of the new 20 year “9 Fire” feng shui cycle. (*Wood Feeds Fire). The influence of this wood dragon offers the potential for success & growth by acting on new ideas.

As we end 20 years of “8 Mountain” earth energy, reflect on how this influenced you to enhance your personal growth through education for your mind body & soul. There was great attention focused on sustainability & environmental issues. This new 20-year feng shui cycle brings the fire element. The quality of fire shines a light for all to be revealed. Fire ignites passion, enlightenment, transformation & fun. As the light shines of the fire shines bright there are lots of opportunities for recognition and enhancing your reputation. Fire is spontaneous, let go of holding on to unnecessary feelings & “stuff” to enjoy the “fun” in all that you do. If you are ready for a transformation in your life, this is the year to make it happen. The Wood Dragon brings fuel to ignite this powerful fire energy. You may find this energy moving fast, attracting you to excitement & ready to explore new things. Fire ignites passion: when passion moves to extreme situations can become dramatic & aggressive. And remember, with all this fire light many things will be revealed, no more hiding in the shadows! Stay in integrity & you will benefit greatly.

Next: “Chinese Lunar New Year” fluctuates depending on the cycles of the lunar calendar, this year we celebrate on 2/10 with fun traditions for a healthy, happy prosperous 2024.
The places you spend the most time are “living vision boards,” home, office & even your car.
For a full list of tips for Chinese New Year’s Eve & New Year’s Day: https://loiskramerperez.com/chinese-lunar-new-year-2024/

Get the full scoop for 9 Fire Period & Wood Dragon join my online class at 11 AM on 1/20/2024.
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Feng Shui Facts & Fantasy

Let’s begin with a description of Feng Shui:
“Feng Shui” translated from Chinese to English is “Wind Water” Wind is the energy you feel, water is the energy you see.

The Principles of Feng Shui create a harmonious relationship between the energy you see & the energy you feel. How did it begin? Feng Shui began in China thousands of years ago & has transcended cultures & time.
Early Feng Shui began with “form”, to site homes and graves. The principles of form are the foundation we use today. We also incorporate directions, colors, shapes, elements, objects, timing and YOU.

Feng Shui has basic principles that are followed, however; the most important piece of the puzzle is YOU, your relationship to your space, what is happening in your life now & where you want to go. Your personal feng shui will vary at different times in your life, the best Feng Shui is to be open to change.

Imagine your home as your living vision board: do you make “1 Vision Board” & keep it forever? I think not!

Many of you have read books, searched online, listened to podcasts, maybe taken a class. How much of what you heard/learned is based on fact or fantasy? I think some of what we hear is translated like playing telephone: it starts out as one thing and ends up something else, forgetting the reason for the statement in the first place. Everything in feng shui has a reason and a purpose.

Let’s explore some of my favorite feng shui facts and fantasies.

Don’t use the # 4!
I was shopping at IKEA, holding 4 bamboo stalks & a man came up to me emphatically stating:
“NO! That is bad luck Feng Shui!” He did not appear to be of Chinese descent. I am not either.
The Chinese word for death sounds like “4”, therefore someone whose native language is Chinese or is of Chinese culture, I understand the connection & I respect that.
The truth is, the Feng Shui significance for the number 4 is southeast, a “tree element” which is the area of our life connected with “Fortunate Blessings, Prosperity.” I chose to place 4 bamboo stalks in the southeast to nourish my fortunate blessings adding healthy tree element which in turn nourishes the “fire of the south, the life connection to “Reputation, Recognition & Passion.”

Keep the toilet lid closed or your money will go down the drain!
First & foremost, Feng Shui promotes safe & healthy living. I choose to close the lid when I flush to keep whatever is in there from flying up into the air! However: if you believe you are flushing your money down the drain, you will look for ways to prove it.
The truth is, bathrooms have a lot of water, water relates to wealth. So, when your pipes are leaking, it’s a metaphor for money going down the drain – pay attention to what you’ve neglected creating a bigger expense. Dripping faucets: money is slowly dripping away – do you still have outdated subscriptions on autopay?  Clogged drains? What is it you haven’t completed that’s stopping money from coming in.

My best advice is to keep your bathrooms neat, clean; pipes maintained & close the lid when you flush!
Adding fresh flowers or bamboo stalks in clear water promotes healthy chi.

Mirrors at the front door: good or bad?
Mirrors are great ways to enhance energy, Feng Shui principles use mirrors to reflect beauty, “double blessings” and expand spaces.
A mirror placed on a wall directly opposite the front door is not recommended. The reason is when you open the front door, the mirror reflects the energy and pushes it back out of the house.
The truth is, in Feng Shui the front door is know as the “Mouth of Chi.” (Chi = Energy) This indicates the front door is important for bringing in good health, wealth & opportunity.
Why would you want to send the “Chi” back out the door before it comes in!
A great use of a mirror at the front door is to create an expanse of space. If your front door opens into a foyer which has an open space on one side and a wall on the other side, place a mirror on the wall to balance the energy, creating a sense opening the space.
*I have so many other mirror conversations & recommendations: check out this fun class on demand: https://bit.ly/OnDemandFengShuiwLois

Sitting with your back to the door is bad Feng Shui.
Here is the truth behind this statement. Feng Shui principles recommend sitting with your back to a wall having a view of the door. We refer to this as the “Command Position.”
One reason not to sit with your back to the door is your central nervous system is on alert when your back is to a door or an opening, feeling unprotected. You may not realize how distracting this can be. It is more comfortable & productive to sit in the “Command Position.” In the “Command Position” you are available & can see all the  opportunities coming your way. Experiment for yourself.

Is Feng Shui a religion? 
Feng Sui is not a religion, it does have roots in Taoism, based on the belief in energy: everything has energy, creating the environment that supports your energy is the best Feng Shui of all!
Going back to the beginning thousands of years ago in China is where “Form Feng Shui” was created for siting homes to be in the ideal environment for safety & practicality.
There is a reason behind every Feng Shui principle. There are varied ways Feng Shui is practiced, there are some spiritual aspects for those of a spiritual nature. The beauty working with a certified Feng Shui Practitioner, they will recommend the best Feng Shui principles specifically for you.

Place a 3-legged frog at your front door to bring in the money.
This is a good example of using “icons” in Feng Shui. Everything you put in your space relates to your subconscious, this is how Feng Shui connects the meaning of the things we see to the things we feel. The story I like best about the 3-legged frog is something like this:

“A farmer was passing a well on his walk & heard a voice from the well saying “help me, help me.” He peered into the well & saw a frog at the bottom. He sent the pail down the well & brought the frog to safety, then he went on his way. This frog only had 3 legs which is why he couldn’t jump high enough to get out. The next morning the farmer woke up to find gold coins under his pillow. Every day for the rest of his life the gift of gratitude from the frog was a pile of gold coins.” My interpretation of this folk tale: give without expectation & you are rewarded more than you can imagine. This is the concept for Fortunate Blessings.

So – if every time you see your 3-legged frog you are reminded to be kind & generous without expectation & live in gratitude – go for it! However, if you think you can randomly place an object somewhere just because someone said so, don’t expect miracles!
The truth is: objects are only as powerful as your actions & behaviors inspired from them. Remember, everything we do in Feng Shui has a reason & a purpose.

Feng Shui offers wonderful opportunities to reflect on yourself, who you are, where you are, & where you want to go. Feng Shui recommendations specifically designed for you will help you create the life you love and deserve.
The most important part of this equation is you! Only you know how you feel, trust your inner knowing & be open to change. Ask questions, if it doesn’t make sense to you, ask more questions, still not making sense, do something different.

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Feng Shui 101: Unlocking the Secrets of Harmonious Living

Are you tired of feeling stuck in your career, struggling with relationships, or just feeling generally unfulfilled in your daily life? It might be time to look at the energy flow in your living space. Bring in the shui:  feng shui, the ancient Chinese practice of creating harmony and balance between you and your environment.

But what exactly is feng shui and how does it work? Simply put, feng shui is your living vision board. It’s the art of arranging your living space in a way that promotes the flow of energy, or “chi,” to improve your well-being and bring good living. And no, you don’t have to be a master of martial arts or have a degree in interior design to achieve feng shui in your home. Feng Shui is not a religion; it’s actually based on science. The science in nature, energy & people.

The key principles of feng shui are based on the five elements: water, tree, fire, earth & metal. Each element represents a different aspect of life, such as movement & flow (water) growth & expansion (tree), passion & excitement (fire), support & grounding (earth), organization & structure (metal).  By incorporating these elements into your home, you can create a balance of energy that supports and nurtures the people who live there.

Wait!  Before you start rearranging all your furniture, let’s start with some easy & practical tips for incorporating feng shui into your daily life.

    1.Clear the clutter: You will immediately feel the shift in energy when you create a clear space by clearing the clutter. Clutter not only physically blocks the flow of energy, but it also creates mental clutter contributing to feelings of stress and overwhelm. Take some time to declutter your home, begin creating a sense of open space & tranquility. Begin with your silverware drawer! Just a few minutes begins to open up space.

    2.Bring in nature: Incorporating elements of nature, such as plants, flowers, and natural materials, can greatly improve the energy flow in your home. Not only do they add beauty and life to a space, but they also help to purify the air & inspire you to get moving!

   3. Use the power of color: Each color in feng shui represents a different aspect of life. For example, red represents passion and excitement, while blue represents calm and tranquility. By incorporating colors that align with your intentions and goals, you can create a sense of balance and harmony in your space.

   4. Give love to your front door: The front door is the “Mouth of Chi,” the way energy enters your home, the metaphor for opportunities coming your way, your ability to be found! Be sure the numbers on your house can be easily seen, the front door well-lit & welcoming.

 5. Create a peaceful bedroom: Your bedroom is a sanctuary for rest, rejuvenation & intimate activities. Are there any other people hanging out in your bedroom? Meaning photos of people other than you & your partner??? Think about it! Rest easily in the bedroom as you minimize electronic devices, clear under the bed & use colors that promote a feeling of calm and tranquility.

I know, you might be thinking, “That sounds great, but I live in a tiny apartment & I can’t really change the layout or decor.” While it’s true that some feng shui principles require a bit more flexibility in terms of space and decor, the beauty of feng shui is that it’s adaptable to any living situation. How about this – Create Fabulous Firsts! The first thing you see coming into your apartment, the first thing you see waking up in the morning, the first thing you see sitting in your favorite chair, this can change everything! “These Fabulous Firsts” apply to everyone.

There are basic principles in Feng Shui, each one has a purpose, a Certified Feng Shui Practitioner can help you create the harmonious environment that aligns with YOUR personal energy, values & goals. Feng Shui is not a cookie cutter practice. You are the defining factor in how the principles are put into place, based on your elemental nature, where you are and where you want to be. The Feng Shui Practitioner will analyze your home/office in relation to the correlating areas of your life, using the “Bagua” which is the map of your home indicating your life areas. Combining the “Bagua” map and your elemental nature and your desires, the recommendations are designed specifically for you.

The most important thing to remember when incorporating feng shui into your life is to have fun with it. Experiment and try different things to see what resonates with you and your space. Most important: listen to your intuition, that is how you create fabulous feng shui.

The goal of feng shui is to create a space that supports and nurtures the people who live in it, and it’s a powerful tool for creating balance and harmony in your life. So, why not give it a try and see how it can improve your well-being and bring good living into your life? Lois Kramer-Perez is a Certified Feng Shui Practitioner. Ready to take the first step towards living your Fabulous Feng Shui? Schedule you FREE Discover Your Shui Call at www.CallWithLois.com . The moment you choose to set your date, you’ll be on your way to unlocking the secrets of feng shui, creating a space that supports and nurtures you to be the most Fabulous YOU!
Lois@LoisKramerPerez.com

The Shui of Love

Valentine’s Day reminds us to celebrate Love. You can celebrate Love everyday if you choose.
Your mindset is the driver of your life. When you choose to see with eyes of love, you become part of the vibration of love, part of the magical collective of all who see love.

What you surround yourself with, choosing how you want feel, especially when you are not paying attention, is the first step. Create your life to be filled with love simply following these few tips.
P.S. I have one more Feng Shui Love Secret. Message me to find out! lois@loiskramerperez.com

  1. Create Fabulous Firsts: What you see is what you become whether you are consciously aware or not. Notice how you feel, and all your “Firsts” should be “Fabulous” How do you feel when enter your home, what is the first thing you see when waking up in the morning and sitting at your desk or in your favorite chair. How do you want to feel with your partner?
  2. Be in Command Always have your back supported, with an easy view of what is coming. This allows your central nervous system to remain in a calm state, creating a secure feeling without distraction and ready to receive all opportunities awaiting you. Lying in bed have a clear view of the door.
  3. The Feng Shui Bedroom: Create an intimate retreat, with whom do you want to share this space? Choose the photos for this room thoughtfully, do you feel comfortable having people, children, family, watching us? What are you sleeping on top of? Is there anything under the bed? Create a support for optimal sleeping, a solid headboard, wood, fabric or create one with giant pillows. Get rid of 3 things in your bedroom every day for 9 days, make room for your love.
  4. Looking for a partner, or sparking the flame? Is there room for another? Create the relationship you desire by making room in the closets and drawers, is there a place for them to sit? Add art, objects which depict your dreams. Intertwined, 2 wicks in 1 candle. Pairs ~ Cranes, Mandarin Ducks mate for life. A nightstand on either side of the bed ~ they don’t have to match, the taller more prominent will reflect the one in charge!
  5. Create Movement and Flow: Movement should be effortless through our spaces. Placement of furniture and other objects should allow easy movement through openings, doorways and hallways. As you move effortlessly through your space, life will become the same
  6. Look Around: What messages are you feeling? Single? Happy? Lonely? Love
  7. Put Your Intention in Place. Smiling ~write down your desires, in the present, “I am”
    “I have”. Say it out loud as writing, connect to the feeling. As you engage your body (writing and speaking) mind (creating) and spirit (intention) you infuse power! Place your intentions in the red envelope and sleep with it under your pillow or between the mattress and box spring for 9 days.
    Then remove the envelope & place it where it will be seen easily every day. As you see this red envelope you remember what you wrote, how you feel. Make it stronger, say the words. Feel it! Participate!
  1. Play the 3 x 9 Game! Every three days for 9 days do something different. Change your hair, what you wear, where you go, what you do, how you do it. Plan it out.  Do something different to get something different.
  1. A heart shaped bowl carved out of wood representing a growing heart, placed your entryway with rose petals or your description of the love you desire, will call in a new love into your life.

Become Who You Wish to Attract ~ Participate in the Activities YOU Love.

 

raising your levels of consciousness

Navigating The Stages Consciousness by Lois Kramer-Perez, C.Ht.

I’m so used to taking my shoes off when I come into the house that one day, wearing my slippers, I went outside to check the mail and then I took my slippers off before I came inside, as if I was wearing shoes! It seemed funny that I was so imprinted with the action: enter house – shoes come off. This was so ingrained in how I did things without even thinking about it, that it brought to mind how many things do we do automatically?  How many times do we respond to others automatically without being aware of what we are saying?

When I began this journey, I began noticing how people would acknowledge each other walking through a hallway. I worked in a corporate setting, there were always people passing each other the hallways throughout the day, greeting each other with “Hi, how are you? Hi, how are you?” People would say “Hi, how are you?”, and the response would be: “Hi how are you?”
No one paused to say “Great!” or “Eh!”, The automatic response conversation was: “Hi, how are you? Hi, how are you?”

And I am sure you have experienced this:  stuff happens, and we automatically growl “GRRRRrrr!” or say: “I’m so stupid!”, “ugh! I can’t believe this” or old phrases that we have that are outdated.

This happens. And then there are the times that your routine is disrupted! Every day you get in your car, turn left and get onto Rt 17 North. Then one day, you realize, after you have been driving on Rt 17 North for a minute – yikes –how did I get here – I am going somewhere else today!

It’s as if you were in a trance.

Once you “wake-up” you realize, some of these patterns are keeping you from being present. When you notice you have done something unconsciously, that is the time to begin your shift. This happens in stages.
You become conscious of something and don’t do anything about it.
The next time you notice, you’re a little more aware.

Finally, you think about doing something and choose to do it differently.
Now you are creating a new pattern to be more present.
Your path to consciousness happens in stages.

My “Pal Al” Einstein said: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”.

You are always in a place where you are supposed to be. When you are ready for awareness it comes up to bite you to catch your attention.

Here is a simple way to look at the concept of consciousness.

1.” Unconsciously Incompetent”, you don’t know what you don’t know. Ignorance.
Example: You are a child, and for the first time you see people driving cars. Wow! Look at that! Something I have never seen before.

  1. Consciously Incompetent”: You are aware of something you want to know, something you want to change. Desire.
    Example: You are older, and you are curious, you are aware that you do not know how to drive a car.
  2. Consciously Competent”: You are taking conscious actions to change your state. Example: You are 16 years old and can get your drivers permit. You take driving lessons. Each time you get in the car, you take time to get acclimated, put on your seat belt, start the engine, focus on placing your hands on the wheel, check the mirrors, take a deep breath, and begin to drive. Each action is thoughtful.
  3. 4. “Unconsciously Competent”: You Just Know! It Becomes Second Nature. Knowing. Example: You get in the car and drive.

These are the four stages of becoming aware.
This is happening all the time. It is how we navigate through everything.

We all have our own, unique timetable for our journey and wherever we are is where we are supposed to be.
And if we do look back and say “Wow, if I would have known what I know now, I could have, blah blah blah.”
No! You were not supposed to know anything except where you were at that time. How can you be expected to know what you don’t know?  You were in stage 1: Unconsciously Incompetent..
You’re meant to do the best you can with where you are at the moment. Honor yourself as you go through your journey, one step, one chapter, one stage at a time.
Celebrate each stage of awareness. You will begin to see that where you are right now, may not have fit too well into your life 10 years ago, 5 years ago, 1 year ago or 1 week ago.
Where you are now is what’s important. How you are relating to what’s happening around you right now is important. This helps you to keep moving forward.

As you evolve, you begin to see things through a different lens. Somethings you may have seen one way, all of a sudden change – it’s as if one morning, you open your eyes and notice wow – now I get it!

Embrace the moment where you are. Get excited when you realize you find yourself in
stage 1: Unconsciously Incompetent – because you know the best is yet to come.

Explore replacing expectation with fascination.

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Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt., “Queen of the Shui” Certified Feng Shui and NLP, NAP Practitioner, is the go-to expert when you are ready to receive passionate relationships, a peaceful home, and a life you love. Inspiring people to seek and create new opportunities in their lives, she puts her 10+ years of Feng Shui energy clearing to work to put you the driver’s seat with your relationships and spaces. www.loiskramerperez.com lois@loiskramerperez.com

 

IT’S NOT MINE! TOOLS FOR MANAGING STRESS IN DAILY LIFE

“It’s Not Mine!”
Uh-Oh- I notice a feeling – all of a sudden, it’s the feeling of impatience – but wait a moment, I am having a great day, where did this come from? It must be information my body is noticing.
Any feeling we have ever experienced is a vibration our body remembers.
We are human tuning forks, so it makes sense when we are in a remembered vibration we are triggered, those are the subtle signals.

How about when we are in the midst of a discussion and the other person is emotional, or we are next to someone who is afraid – vibrating terror – yep – we connect with those too.

This happened to me, although I didn’t know it at the time. Sitting next to my 5-year-old sister in a blackout, with just a flashlight between us, she began to cry. So, her 9-year-old big sister, me- started crying too.
Before I knew it we were both wailing in terror! My dad came running in “what’s wrong?” All I could do was sob “I don’t know” I recall I was feeling really scared. I now know my sisters fear triggered mine,

We have the ability to change emotional patterns in our life.
We can learn to manage the stress we are bombarded with in our daily lives.
The first step is changing our relationship to these charges of energy we feel which show up as emotions, triggered by events, others, scents or even sounds. I am sure we have all experienced walking into a room and noticing it feels a bit chilly, as if an argument had just taken place, or sense that something just doesn’t feel right.

Our bodies respond to information based on what it knows, for instance – if we feel the emotion of impatience, our body will recall chemicals flooding throughout our body supporting that feeling. The more we confirm the feeling of impatience – the stronger the support becomes.
We then decide that we are impatient.

That is our reaction.

We do this all day long, unaware it may not even be our experience, but someone else’s.
Our reaction has us believe that We Are that feeling, impatience, we then begin to “judge” how we are feeling, which only strengthens the impatience, creating distraction.

This reaction happens in an instant.

As we change our experience noticing and responding to these feelings, we become aware.
We have the ability to use new tools to begin moving from “reacting” to “responding”

Here are a few tips to get you started:
First: Notice the feeling that arises and how your body is responding – do not judge it, become aware that this is just information, it is not who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are not that feeling.
Acknowledge you have felt this feeling before, and you will feel it again in your lifetime. Notice, this is just how your body responds to this particular information. Take 2 deep breaths.

Second: Redirect your thoughts: Replace the thought with something positive: such as:
This feels like frustration, but I am not frustrated, my body is responding to this situation based on its familiar reaction. Now that this is done, I feel relieved, clear and grounded, all of those distractions from this situation are gone. I am focused, I feel positive, I am refreshed, and I am grounded and clear.

Do Not Judge Yourself, Be Gentle With Yourself… As we practice noticing these feelings little by little, we can begin to reduce the intensity of the feeling and shorten the duration of the experience, little by little, breath by breath. We soon find that we can notice these feelings without becoming distracted or overwhelmed. We enjoy our new relationship with all of our feelings through awareness. Life best enjoyed as we are participating and experiencing.
Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt. is a Certified Feng Shui Practitioner & Educator working with people creating healthy abundant lifestyles embracing the feng shui principles for people, places and things. Visit https://loiskramerperez.com/30-second-vacation-with-lois/ to view Lois’ videos, a fabulous tool to help you redirect your thoughts, it only takes 2 deep breaths. Lois would love to hear from you, contact her at lois@loiskramerperez.com 201.906.5767

“A Shoe-In or A Shoe-Off! That is the question! A Guide to Awareness
Sunshine and the Rainy Day Jar

Its a beautiful day to capture the sunshine in my “rainy day jar”.  I don’t know about you, but when there are too many long grey days, I find my chi (energy) evaporating. I created this “rainy day jar” to lift my chi with laughter sunshine sparkle and all things that activate happy!

The sun has come out after many grey days, so I wanted to honor my inner light and charge up this jar with sunshine and crystal chi.

Today I added some sparkling faceted crystals and amazing amethyst

to my shells, gumby and rainbow troll.

I am reminded on this glorious sunny days to pay attention to all things which lift me.

As I find these things along the way, I add them to the jar to brighten my day.

Here is my guide to create your own “Rainy Day Jar”

Find a glass jar or bowl which you love. I have been scouring antique shops for crystal candy dishes.

Look around and see what you have that lifts you up:
Sea shells, sand, crystals, photos of people, places or things.
You can think of this as a “vision jar” by placing your dreams in the jar.
Cotton balls for fluffy clouds, cut out a smiling sun 
Words of Inspiration
Use your imagination.

Place the items in the jar, smiling and feeling the uplifting joy as you do.
Remember a story connected with each item as you touch it.
Experience your feelings with joy.

Place the jar where you can see it everyday, reminding you of the joy in your life.
Inspiring you to add more joy to the jar as you feel it.

Now that’s Fabulous Feng Shui!

I would love to hear your inspirations for your “Rainy Day Jar”