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raising your levels of consciousness

Navigating The Stages Consciousness by Lois Kramer-Perez, C.Ht.

I’m so used to taking my shoes off when I come into the house that one day, wearing my slippers, I went outside to check the mail and then I took my slippers off before I came inside, as if I was wearing shoes! It seemed funny that I was so imprinted with the action: enter house – shoes come off. This was so ingrained in how I did things without even thinking about it, that it brought to mind how many things do we do automatically?  How many times do we respond to others automatically without being aware of what we are saying?

When I began this journey, I began noticing how people would acknowledge each other walking through a hallway. I worked in a corporate setting, there were always people passing each other the hallways throughout the day, greeting each other with “Hi, how are you? Hi, how are you?” People would say “Hi, how are you?”, and the response would be: “Hi how are you?”
No one paused to say “Great!” or “Eh!”, The automatic response conversation was: “Hi, how are you? Hi, how are you?”

And I am sure you have experienced this:  stuff happens, and we automatically growl “GRRRRrrr!” or say: “I’m so stupid!”, “ugh! I can’t believe this” or old phrases that we have that are outdated.

This happens. And then there are the times that your routine is disrupted! Every day you get in your car, turn left and get onto Rt 17 North. Then one day, you realize, after you have been driving on Rt 17 North for a minute – yikes –how did I get here – I am going somewhere else today!

It’s as if you were in a trance.

Once you “wake-up” you realize, some of these patterns are keeping you from being present. When you notice you have done something unconsciously, that is the time to begin your shift. This happens in stages.
You become conscious of something and don’t do anything about it.
The next time you notice, you’re a little more aware.

Finally, you think about doing something and choose to do it differently.
Now you are creating a new pattern to be more present.
Your path to consciousness happens in stages.

My “Pal Al” Einstein said: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”.

You are always in a place where you are supposed to be. When you are ready for awareness it comes up to bite you to catch your attention.

Here is a simple way to look at the concept of consciousness.

1.” Unconsciously Incompetent”, you don’t know what you don’t know. Ignorance.
Example: You are a child, and for the first time you see people driving cars. Wow! Look at that! Something I have never seen before.

  1. Consciously Incompetent”: You are aware of something you want to know, something you want to change. Desire.
    Example: You are older, and you are curious, you are aware that you do not know how to drive a car.
  2. Consciously Competent”: You are taking conscious actions to change your state. Example: You are 16 years old and can get your drivers permit. You take driving lessons. Each time you get in the car, you take time to get acclimated, put on your seat belt, start the engine, focus on placing your hands on the wheel, check the mirrors, take a deep breath, and begin to drive. Each action is thoughtful.
  3. 4. “Unconsciously Competent”: You Just Know! It Becomes Second Nature. Knowing. Example: You get in the car and drive.

These are the four stages of becoming aware.
This is happening all the time. It is how we navigate through everything.

We all have our own, unique timetable for our journey and wherever we are is where we are supposed to be.
And if we do look back and say “Wow, if I would have known what I know now, I could have, blah blah blah.”
No! You were not supposed to know anything except where you were at that time. How can you be expected to know what you don’t know?  You were in stage 1: Unconsciously Incompetent..
You’re meant to do the best you can with where you are at the moment. Honor yourself as you go through your journey, one step, one chapter, one stage at a time.
Celebrate each stage of awareness. You will begin to see that where you are right now, may not have fit too well into your life 10 years ago, 5 years ago, 1 year ago or 1 week ago.
Where you are now is what’s important. How you are relating to what’s happening around you right now is important. This helps you to keep moving forward.

As you evolve, you begin to see things through a different lens. Somethings you may have seen one way, all of a sudden change – it’s as if one morning, you open your eyes and notice wow – now I get it!

Embrace the moment where you are. Get excited when you realize you find yourself in
stage 1: Unconsciously Incompetent – because you know the best is yet to come.

Explore replacing expectation with fascination.

Want to learn more, join Lois’ Thursday Morning Circle. Register https://bit.ly/ThursMorningCircles   questions? Ask lois@loiskramerperez.com

Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt., “Queen of the Shui” Certified Feng Shui and NLP, NAP Practitioner, is the go-to expert when you are ready to receive passionate relationships, a peaceful home, and a life you love. Inspiring people to seek and create new opportunities in their lives, she puts her 10+ years of Feng Shui energy clearing to work to put you the driver’s seat with your relationships and spaces. www.loiskramerperez.com lois@loiskramerperez.com

 

raising your levels of consciousness

Navigating the Stages of Consciousness by Lois Kramer-Perez, C.Ht.

I’m so used to taking my shoes off when I come into the house that one day, wearing my slippers, I went outside to check the mail and then I took my slippers off before I came inside, as if I was wearing shoes! It seemed funny that I was so imprinted with the action: enter house – shoes come off. This was so ingrained in how I did things without even thinking about it, that it brought to mind how many things do we do automatically?  How many times do we respond to others automatically without being aware of what we are saying?

When I began this journey, I began noticing how people would acknowledge each other walking through a hallway. I worked in a corporate setting, there were always people passing each other the hallways throughout the day, greeting each other with “Hi, how are you? Hi, how are you?” People would say “Hi, how are you?”, and the response would be: “Hi how are you?”
No one paused to say “Great!” or “Eh!”, The automatic response conversation was: “Hi, how are you? Hi, how are you?”

And I am sure you have experienced this:  stuff happens, and we automatically growl “GRRRRrrr!” or say: “I’m so stupid!”, “ugh! I can’t believe this” or old phrases that we have that are outdated.

This happens. And then there are the times that your routine is disrupted! Every day you get in your car, turn left and get onto Rt 17 North. Then one day, you realize, after you have been driving on Rt 17 North for a minute – yikes –how did I get here – I am going somewhere else today!

It’s as if you were in a trance.

Once you “wake-up” you realize, some of these patterns are keeping you from being present. When you notice you have done something unconsciously, that is the time to begin your shift. This happens in stages.
You become conscious of something and don’t do anything about it.
The next time you notice, you’re a little more aware.

Finally, you think about doing something and choose to do it differently.
Now you are creating a new pattern to be more present.
Your path to consciousness happens in stages.

My “Pal Al” Einstein said: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”.

You are always in a place where you are supposed to be. When you are ready for awareness it comes up to bite you to catch your attention.

Here is a simple way to look at the concept of consciousness.

1.” Unconsciously Incompetent”, you don’t know what you don’t know. Ignorance.
Example: You are a child, and for the first time you see people driving cars. Wow! Look at that! Something I have never seen before.

  1. Consciously Incompetent”: You are aware of something you want to know, something you want to change. Desire.
    Example: You are older, and you are curious, you are aware that you do not know how to drive a car.
  2. Consciously Competent”: You are taking conscious actions to change your state. Example: You are 16 years old and can get your drivers permit. You take driving lessons. Each time you get in the car, you take time to get acclimated, put on your seat belt, start the engine, focus on placing your hands on the wheel, check the mirrors, take a deep breath, and begin to drive. Each action is thoughtful.
  3.  “Unconsciously Competent”: You Just Know! It Becomes Second Nature. Knowing.
    Example: You get in the car and drive.

These are the four stages of becoming aware.
This is happening all the time. It is how we navigate through everything.

We all have our own, unique timetable for our journey and wherever we are is where we are supposed to be.
And if we do look back and say “Wow, if I would have known what I know now, I could have, blah blah blah.”
No! You were not supposed to know anything except where you were at that time. How can you be expected to know what you don’t know?  You were in stage 1: Unconsciously Incompetent..
You’re meant to do the best you can with where you are at the moment. Honor yourself as you go through your journey, one step, one chapter, one stage at a time.
Celebrate each stage of awareness. You will begin to see that where you are right now, may not have fit too well into your life 10 years ago, 5 years ago, 1 year ago or 1 week ago.
Where you are now is what’s important. How you are relating to what’s happening around you right now is important. This helps you to keep moving forward.

As you evolve, you begin to see things through a different lens. Somethings you may have seen one way, all of a sudden change – it’s as if one morning, you open your eyes and notice wow – now I get it!

Embrace the moment where you are. Get excited when you realize you find yourself in
stage 1: Unconsciously Incompetent – because you know the best is yet to come.

Explore replacing expectation with fascination.

Want to learn more, join Lois’ Thursday Morning Circle. Register  https://bit.ly/ThursMorningCircles questions? Ask lois@loiskramerperez.com

Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt., “Queen of the Shui” Certified Feng Shui and NLP, NAP Practitioner, is the go-to expert when you are ready to receive passionate relationships, a peaceful home, and a life you love. Inspiring people to seek and create new opportunities in their lives, she puts her 10+ years of Feng Shui energy clearing to work to put you the driver’s seat with your relationships and spaces. www.loiskramerperez.com lois@loiskramerperez.com

IT’S NOT MINE! TOOLS FOR MANAGING STRESS IN DAILY LIFE

“It’s Not Mine!”
Uh-Oh- I notice a feeling – all of a sudden, it’s the feeling of impatience – but wait a moment, I am having a great day, where did this come from? It must be information my body is noticing.
Any feeling we have ever experienced is a vibration our body remembers.
We are human tuning forks, so it makes sense when we are in a remembered vibration we are triggered, those are the subtle signals.

How about when we are in the midst of a discussion and the other person is emotional, or we are next to someone who is afraid – vibrating terror – yep – we connect with those too.

This happened to me, although I didn’t know it at the time. Sitting next to my 5-year-old sister in a blackout, with just a flashlight between us, she began to cry. So, her 9-year-old big sister, me- started crying too.
Before I knew it we were both wailing in terror! My dad came running in “what’s wrong?” All I could do was sob “I don’t know” I recall I was feeling really scared. I now know my sisters fear triggered mine,

We have the ability to change emotional patterns in our life.
We can learn to manage the stress we are bombarded with in our daily lives.
The first step is changing our relationship to these charges of energy we feel which show up as emotions, triggered by events, others, scents or even sounds. I am sure we have all experienced walking into a room and noticing it feels a bit chilly, as if an argument had just taken place, or sense that something just doesn’t feel right.

Our bodies respond to information based on what it knows, for instance – if we feel the emotion of impatience, our body will recall chemicals flooding throughout our body supporting that feeling. The more we confirm the feeling of impatience – the stronger the support becomes.
We then decide that we are impatient.

That is our reaction.

We do this all day long, unaware it may not even be our experience, but someone else’s.
Our reaction has us believe that We Are that feeling, impatience, we then begin to “judge” how we are feeling, which only strengthens the impatience, creating distraction.

This reaction happens in an instant.

As we change our experience noticing and responding to these feelings, we become aware.
We have the ability to use new tools to begin moving from “reacting” to “responding”

Here are a few tips to get you started:
First: Notice the feeling that arises and how your body is responding – do not judge it, become aware that this is just information, it is not who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are not that feeling.
Acknowledge you have felt this feeling before, and you will feel it again in your lifetime. Notice, this is just how your body responds to this particular information. Take 2 deep breaths.

Second: Redirect your thoughts: Replace the thought with something positive: such as:
This feels like frustration, but I am not frustrated, my body is responding to this situation based on its familiar reaction. Now that this is done, I feel relieved, clear and grounded, all of those distractions from this situation are gone. I am focused, I feel positive, I am refreshed, and I am grounded and clear.

Do Not Judge Yourself, Be Gentle With Yourself… As we practice noticing these feelings little by little, we can begin to reduce the intensity of the feeling and shorten the duration of the experience, little by little, breath by breath. We soon find that we can notice these feelings without becoming distracted or overwhelmed. We enjoy our new relationship with all of our feelings through awareness. Life best enjoyed as we are participating and experiencing.
Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt. is a Certified Feng Shui Practitioner & Educator working with people creating healthy abundant lifestyles embracing the feng shui principles for people, places and things. Visit https://loiskramerperez.com/30-second-vacation-with-lois/ to view Lois’ videos, a fabulous tool to help you redirect your thoughts, it only takes 2 deep breaths. Lois would love to hear from you, contact her at lois@loiskramerperez.com 201.906.5767

“A Shoe-In or A Shoe-Off! That is the question! A Guide to Awareness
Sunshine and the Rainy Day Jar

Its a beautiful day to capture the sunshine in my “rainy day jar”.  I don’t know about you, but when there are too many long grey days, I find my chi (energy) evaporating. I created this “rainy day jar” to lift my chi with laughter sunshine sparkle and all things that activate happy!

The sun has come out after many grey days, so I wanted to honor my inner light and charge up this jar with sunshine and crystal chi.

Today I added some sparkling faceted crystals and amazing amethyst

to my shells, gumby and rainbow troll.

I am reminded on this glorious sunny days to pay attention to all things which lift me.

As I find these things along the way, I add them to the jar to brighten my day.

Here is my guide to create your own “Rainy Day Jar”

Find a glass jar or bowl which you love. I have been scouring antique shops for crystal candy dishes.

Look around and see what you have that lifts you up:
Sea shells, sand, crystals, photos of people, places or things.
You can think of this as a “vision jar” by placing your dreams in the jar.
Cotton balls for fluffy clouds, cut out a smiling sun 
Words of Inspiration
Use your imagination.

Place the items in the jar, smiling and feeling the uplifting joy as you do.
Remember a story connected with each item as you touch it.
Experience your feelings with joy.

Place the jar where you can see it everyday, reminding you of the joy in your life.
Inspiring you to add more joy to the jar as you feel it.

Now that’s Fabulous Feng Shui!

I would love to hear your inspirations for your “Rainy Day Jar”

 

Dowsing
Pause, Breathe, and Now What?
Pause, Breathe, Play.
Sometimes the stage is set for us.
What can we do when circumstances are out of our control?
Go with the flow? Let it go?
Hmmm..  sometimes we do resist.  and that famous saying is “what we resist persists”
When we are stressed and someone says “Relax” – do we?
I don’t!
It has to come from within, it has to be our choice.
Create a new model.
Decide to Pause, when needed or when that is the best choice.
Choice. Decide to Choose.
How Do We Begin?

Our bodies respond to information based on what it knows, for instance – if we feel the emotion of anxiety, our body will recall the chemicals that support that feeling, the more we confirm the feeling of anxiety – the stronger the support becomes.  Now we are going to begin to change our relationship to how we notice and respond to these feeling. We move from “reaction” to “responding”

We feel the effects of charges of information we pick up all the time, as we “react” to a thought, it connects with our emotions, our body has a memory of how it reacts to these feelings, chemicals which support that feeling are sent rushing through our body, this our typical “reaction.” We then believe that We Are that feeling, we are frustrated, or we are angry, and then we begin to “judge” ourselves & how we are feeling, which only strengthens these feelings, creating distraction,

We begin, becoming aware, we pay attention and notice when we begin to feel a strong emotion – before we “react” and decide we are angry, upset, distracted by these “negative thoughts”, begin to redirect ourselves.

First: Notice the feeling that arises and how your body is responding – do not judge it, become aware that this is just information, it is not who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are not that feeling.

Acknowledge you have felt this feeling before, and will feel it again in your lifetime, but it is not who you are, it will not overwhelm you,

Second: Redirect your thoughts: Replace the thought supporting that feeling with something positive: such as: This feeling dealing with “x” feels like frustration, but I am not frustrated, that was just information as to how my body was responding to this situation, now that this is done, I feel relieved, clear and grounded, all of those distractions from this situation are gone. I am focused, I feel positive, I am refreshed, I am abundant.

We can create the state we can choose to become.
We practice our new power and state of being.
Practice Choosing.
Practice Being.

Play! Enjoy Life ~Because we can!

If you would like to hear more about this empowering tool, contact Lois at lois@loiskramerperez.com  she would love to set up a call to to tell you more.

 

Fun With Maria Mirkovich on Family Today

I had so much fun with Maria taping her show “Family Today with Maria Mirkovich”

Enjoy!

Manifesting Our Visions with a Little Help From the Universe

vision board photo

I just love connecting with the gift of the Universe. Each year there are auspicious locations which support us in our life journey. For those of us who create vision boards, they become very powerful if we place them in these areas of bonus energy.
These are my picks for the best locations to place your vision board in 2015.

North: 2015 Abundant Prosperity The North is the #1 auspicious area for this year. Energize this area by spending time here. If the front door is in the North be sure to use it even if you enter through another door, make a point to use it. Open the windows let the fresh air circulate to activate this abundance. By placing your vision board here, your connect to power of abundant potential in your life journey.

East: This area is naturally auspicious in 2015 as we have the career energy enhancing this are. When you spend time in this area, feel prosperity flourishing. Place your vision board in the east reflecting both professional and personal goals for 2015.

Northeast: Helpful and auspicious energy to help attract success in your career and achieve recognition for your accomplishments. Spending time here encourages you to aim higher and become greater than you thought possible. When you place your vision board here in 2015, feel the power!

SouthWest: Future Prosperity: This is the auspicious area for 2015 which creates more of whatever comes in contact. Activating this area sets up prosperity for career and business, a very good place to manifest your visions. Fresh flowers, healthy green plants energize this fortunate area of the home. If your office happens to be in the SW, sit on a red or purple pillow! Feel Success!

Have questions? Need Help? Contact me at lois@loiskramerperez.com or 201.906.5767

 

 

 

Sometimes We Just Need Some Happy

 

Sometimes we just need some happy, no reason, no rational explanation required.
Take a Happy 30 Second Vacation with Lois

Enjoy!

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Feng Shui and Fabulous for Romance

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cropped all I ask of you painting with mandarin duck couple

Looking for romance, looking for love? Look no further, the place to begin is by looking within.  Who we are inside ourselves is the energy we are projecting, every day, every moment, with each breath.

Very often people look for love outside of who they are. First we must look inside, embrace ourselves to find the love within, to be ourselves with purpose, only then can we begin to attract the love and romance that is perfect for us.

“We are what we think, all that we are arises in our thoughts, with our thoughts we make our world” The Buddha, wise man was he.  This quote reminds us that, what we think, how we think, all of our thoughts that are deep within our subconscious, create the world in which we choose to live.  The principles of Feng Shui, guide us to open our awareness, help us connect to our subconscious as we create an environment supporting who we want to be.  When we begin to notice how the objects in our life make us feel, we can then make conscious choices to select those which make us feel, happy, energetic, inspired and confident.  We have all noticed when we are feeling fabulous; the whole world seems fabulous too! Smiling and cheerful everything around us is smiling back, everything is smooth and easy, any bumps or stumbles along the way are insignificant.

Let’s begin by connecting to what fills us with joy. Our actions speak louder than words and there is no mistaking how vibrant we project our energy when we are passionate about what we are doing. We attract what we are projecting, “like gets like” people begin to notice, they are curious to see what is going on so they can get in on this phenomena of feeling groovy! Let’s start with our daily routines, as we focus our energy on those aspects we love, the less exciting will fade into the background. That which we give our attention and energy is that which we continue to create.  

I am a daydream believer! I do believe that our daydreams serve a very important purpose in our lives. As we dream our wildest and most fabulous dreams, we begin to create our new reality. I dreamed up an ipod that arrived as an unexpected gift, as well as an art studio in my home that came with a boyfriend! We want to see ourselves becoming our dreams, feel it as if it is already happening, smile and allow our emotions to fill us; we begin to activate forces allowing us to step into our new reality attracting the relationship that is healthy and perfect for us.

The easiest way to make this happen is to surround ourselves with the perfect scenarios. We want to be sure our subconscious has plenty of information to download; we are consciously setting our subconscious on automatic.

Here are some feng shui tips to get us started:

1.       Create Fabulous Firsts: What we see is what we become. When we surround ourselves with objects that create the feelings of the relationship we desire, that is exactly what our will energy project.

2.      Just Do It! Engaging in our favorite activities or exploring new interests finds us in the right places at the right times.

3.      Make A List and Check It Twice!  When we write it down, the action connects deep within. As we make our list describing our perfect relationship: written in the present tense, we feel the emotion of each item. Place this list in where we will see it every day: in our underwear drawer or the cabinet in the bathroom we open every morning.  We don’t even need to read the list, just noticing the paper or the envelope will trigger all our desires and emotions connected to those words reinforcing our intentions. Connecting to our vision of romance.

4.      Create A Sacred Space: Our bedroom is our most personal and intimate room. Objects in this room should connect to our sense of romance. A couple entwined in an embrace, a scene of a favorite romantic location, whatever that sense of two personally means to us. We should minimize photos or objects connecting to “outsiders” in our bedroom, such as family and friends.

5.      Make Room For Someone New. Now that they have found us, let’s make room for them; begin living as if they have already arrived.  Create space so that our new partner feels as if they belong: a place to sit and space for their stuff in the closet and drawers. Breathe in the feeling of romance.

6.      3 x 9 Game: Make a list of 3 things to do different every day for 9 days. Check each item off the list at the end of each day. This can include removing items in our home, office or car, changing a daily routine or changing a position of objects throughout our home, always paying close attention to what is going on in our bedroom. As we begin changing our regular patterns, we become available for new opportunities and adventures.

7.      Stay true to who we are: Be ourselves with purpose. Do not lose sight of who we are, the reason we attracted our new love in the first place.

*original painting by Tom James www.tomjamesgallery.com

Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt.  Is an Intuitive Practitioner offering her clients tools using simple techniques for awareness, clarity and empowerment, creating change in their lives from the inside out. Visit www.loiskramerperez.com for services & event schedule. Lois would love to hear from you, contact her at lois@loiskramerperez.com 201.906.5767