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IT’S NOT MINE! TOOLS FOR MANAGING STRESS IN DAILY LIFE

“It’s Not Mine!”
Uh-Oh- I notice a feeling – all of a sudden, it’s the feeling of impatience – but wait a moment, I am having a great day, where did this come from? It must be information my body is noticing.
Any feeling we have ever experienced is a vibration our body remembers.
We are human tuning forks, so it makes sense when we are in a remembered vibration we are triggered, those are the subtle signals.

How about when we are in the midst of a discussion and the other person is emotional, or we are next to someone who is afraid – vibrating terror – yep – we connect with those too.

This happened to me, although I didn’t know it at the time. Sitting next to my 5-year-old sister in a blackout, with just a flashlight between us, she began to cry. So, her 9-year-old big sister, me- started crying too.
Before I knew it we were both wailing in terror! My dad came running in “what’s wrong?” All I could do was sob “I don’t know” I recall I was feeling really scared. I now know my sisters fear triggered mine,

We have the ability to change emotional patterns in our life.
We can learn to manage the stress we are bombarded with in our daily lives.
The first step is changing our relationship to these charges of energy we feel which show up as emotions, triggered by events, others, scents or even sounds. I am sure we have all experienced walking into a room and noticing it feels a bit chilly, as if an argument had just taken place, or sense that something just doesn’t feel right.

Our bodies respond to information based on what it knows, for instance – if we feel the emotion of impatience, our body will recall chemicals flooding throughout our body supporting that feeling. The more we confirm the feeling of impatience – the stronger the support becomes.
We then decide that we are impatient.

That is our reaction.

We do this all day long, unaware it may not even be our experience, but someone else’s.
Our reaction has us believe that We Are that feeling, impatience, we then begin to “judge” how we are feeling, which only strengthens the impatience, creating distraction.

This reaction happens in an instant.

As we change our experience noticing and responding to these feelings, we become aware.
We have the ability to use new tools to begin moving from “reacting” to “responding”

Here are a few tips to get you started:
First: Notice the feeling that arises and how your body is responding – do not judge it, become aware that this is just information, it is not who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are not that feeling.
Acknowledge you have felt this feeling before, and you will feel it again in your lifetime. Notice, this is just how your body responds to this particular information. Take 2 deep breaths.

Second: Redirect your thoughts: Replace the thought with something positive: such as:
This feels like frustration, but I am not frustrated, my body is responding to this situation based on its familiar reaction. Now that this is done, I feel relieved, clear and grounded, all of those distractions from this situation are gone. I am focused, I feel positive, I am refreshed, and I am grounded and clear.

Do Not Judge Yourself, Be Gentle With Yourself… As we practice noticing these feelings little by little, we can begin to reduce the intensity of the feeling and shorten the duration of the experience, little by little, breath by breath. We soon find that we can notice these feelings without becoming distracted or overwhelmed. We enjoy our new relationship with all of our feelings through awareness. Life best enjoyed as we are participating and experiencing.
Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt. is a Certified Feng Shui Practitioner & Educator working with people creating healthy abundant lifestyles embracing the feng shui principles for people, places and things. Visit https://loiskramerperez.com/30-second-vacation-with-lois/ to view Lois’ videos, a fabulous tool to help you redirect your thoughts, it only takes 2 deep breaths. Lois would love to hear from you, contact her at lois@loiskramerperez.com 201.906.5767

Manifesting with The Harvest Moon

Lois Manifesting Ritual for  Full Moon Activation September 24

Items you will need: paper, pen, crystal – I choose Tiger’s Eye for Harvest Moon, Selenite wand, Candle ( optional )

Find a place where you can be quiet and comfortable.
Safely light your candle.
Hold your tiger eye crystal
Have your pad and pen ready for your inspiration.
Ground yourself with 3 deep cleansing breaths.
Close your eyes.
Allow your imagination to open.
Feel your 6th chakra, your third eye open ( in the center of your forehead) See the indigo jewel before you.
Visualize your hearts desires clearly.

Gently Open Your Eyes

Write the words:
“ I Manifested …
begin listing each idea, desire dream in the present tense as if it has already happened.

Use the Selenite Wand to seal the vibrations in your energy field and create a filter to maintain the presence.

On September 24, place your paper on the windowsill to capture to moonlight to activate your desires. Feel the connection you have created with the moon, it has no affect whether or not you can actually “see” the moon.

End with a Manifestation Prayer:
“Full Moon I am Grateful to Receive your light to activate my hearts desires.  May your energy assist me for my greatest good beyond what I know.  With Love and Gratitude, Peace.”

If you have any questions I am happy to answer, lois@loiskramerperez.com

Enjoy this glorious day!

 

Dowsing
Pause, Breathe, and Now What?
Pause, Breathe, Play.
Sometimes the stage is set for us.
What can we do when circumstances are out of our control?
Go with the flow? Let it go?
Hmmm..  sometimes we do resist.  and that famous saying is “what we resist persists”
When we are stressed and someone says “Relax” – do we?
I don’t!
It has to come from within, it has to be our choice.
Create a new model.
Decide to Pause, when needed or when that is the best choice.
Choice. Decide to Choose.
How Do We Begin?

Our bodies respond to information based on what it knows, for instance – if we feel the emotion of anxiety, our body will recall the chemicals that support that feeling, the more we confirm the feeling of anxiety – the stronger the support becomes.  Now we are going to begin to change our relationship to how we notice and respond to these feeling. We move from “reaction” to “responding”

We feel the effects of charges of information we pick up all the time, as we “react” to a thought, it connects with our emotions, our body has a memory of how it reacts to these feelings, chemicals which support that feeling are sent rushing through our body, this our typical “reaction.” We then believe that We Are that feeling, we are frustrated, or we are angry, and then we begin to “judge” ourselves & how we are feeling, which only strengthens these feelings, creating distraction,

We begin, becoming aware, we pay attention and notice when we begin to feel a strong emotion – before we “react” and decide we are angry, upset, distracted by these “negative thoughts”, begin to redirect ourselves.

First: Notice the feeling that arises and how your body is responding – do not judge it, become aware that this is just information, it is not who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are not that feeling.

Acknowledge you have felt this feeling before, and will feel it again in your lifetime, but it is not who you are, it will not overwhelm you,

Second: Redirect your thoughts: Replace the thought supporting that feeling with something positive: such as: This feeling dealing with “x” feels like frustration, but I am not frustrated, that was just information as to how my body was responding to this situation, now that this is done, I feel relieved, clear and grounded, all of those distractions from this situation are gone. I am focused, I feel positive, I am refreshed, I am abundant.

We can create the state we can choose to become.
We practice our new power and state of being.
Practice Choosing.
Practice Being.

Play! Enjoy Life ~Because we can!

If you would like to hear more about this empowering tool, contact Lois at lois@loiskramerperez.com  she would love to set up a call to to tell you more.

 

peace in every breath

Have Fabulous Feng Shui Everyday ~ And the dish ran away with the spoon!

Here is my holiday story for you.

My friend Betsy gave me this lovely peace sign door ornament. It is made from tiny bells, it doesn’t jingle too much, it has a festive feeling but most of all it makes me smile. When I see this peace sign I think about my friend,

peace in every breath

fabulous front door feng shui every day

how grateful I am to know her, how much fun we have together, how we inspire each other. I also am reminded to feel peace in every breath.

There is a part of me that connects to these feelings when I see this peace sign.
For each thought, there is a feeling. I am now anchoring an experience to looking at this peace sign. This anchor is creating these feelings whenever I see this peace sign. I do not need to do anything consciously, I automatically begin to smile and breathe peace in every cell.

Awesome stuff ~ right!

Guess what happened next ~ One day the peace sign disappeared. One moment it was on the door ~then next it was gone.

I looked everywhere. It was as if it vanished into thin air…  There was a feeling of frustration in the air!

I let it go, and every so often I would look around once more to see if I could find it.

I replayed the scene in my mind, to see what I could find that would give me a clue to where the peace sign had gone. I remembered I was taking out all the paper recycle materials. At the time, we did check the bags that were going out the door, nothing.

Whenever I would come home, I would think about that peace sign and how much I missed it. I googled and shmoogled everywhere to see if I could replace it. Nothing.

Then I just let it go.

Here is what happened next.

After another fabulous weekend away, enjoying nature, breathing peace into every cell. Feeling fulfilled by just being, I came home to find the peace sign back on the door once more.  Tom found it in the garage. We have no idea how it got there.

All of a sudden my light went on inside ~ I knew then it was not until I was aligned with peace inside of me that, my peace would show up once more on the outside. The day the peace sign ran away I can recall expressing frustration and irritability, certainly not the energy of peace.

I talk about this all the time, how we are human tuning forks attracting the frequencies which we are vibrating. This is a perfect example how our energy can change our experience. How “hey diddle diddle will cause the dish to run away with the spoon”! For whatever reason this is the rhyme that keeps showing up when these things happen, reminding me not to take myself so seriously, get out of those cranky pants, get up, laugh and dance!

So now all is well, peace is back in action, singing along a favorite song.  Let’s use this holiday spirit to share peace and every breath and love in every heart.

Put a little love in your heart.. and the world will be a better place and the dish will come home with the spoon!

 

Harvest Prayer

I have learned through my Feng Shui and Clearing studies that giving away which you find most precsious  without expecting anything in return is the greatest gift of all.

When we stop judging ourselves, we have nothing left to judge, we can open our hearts, be compassion, love peace and joy.

This poem speaks volumes.

Enjoy

Harvest Prayer ~ Anonymous 17th Century Sermon

Please be GENTLE with yourself & others

We are all children of chance

And none can say why some fields blossom

While others lay brown beneath the harvest sun

Take HOPE that your season will come

Share the JOY of those whose season is at hand

CARE for those around you

Look past your differences

Their dreams are no less than yours

Their choices in life no more easily made

And GIVE

Give in any way you can

Give in every way you can

Give whatever you possess

Give from your heart

To give is to LOVE

To withhold is to whither

Care less for the size of your harvest

Than for how it is shared

And your life will have meaning

And your heart will have peace

Take a 30 second vacation with Lois

Why do we have to say good-bye to summer, when we can always take a 30 second vacation together..

Get Ready, Get Set – Click!    Enjoy

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Always Remember, that’s what friends are for…

We have a powerful weekend upon us.
Thursday September 19 we have our full moon 

Saturday Sept 21 is International Day of Peace,

Sunday Sept 22 the Harvest Moon bringing in the Autumn Equinox,  

Many of you will be celebrating with us on Friday Sept 20 to honor these events. 

 

A song came to into my awareness that brings to mind, relationships, communication, and our love for each other.  

A reminder we need not keep score, just enjoy our moments of friendship with our dearest both near and far.

Tell A Friend You Love Them..   

When we have peace in our hearts, we can have peace in the world.

Everyone of us makes a difference. 

“Breathe, It Only Takes A Moment to Take A Breath, It Only Takes A Moment to Become Inspired” ~ Lois Kramer-Perez

Enjoy the song, and sing along..

That’s What Friends Are For – Dionne Warwick

 

It Is More Than Just Your Words

Words… are your words aligned with who you are?

Are those words that you are thinking –

those words which you are speaking to yourself,
aligned with the words you consciously speak out loud?

I have found that I am not always specific when I talk to myself.

When I am specific – I get exactly what I ask for.

This past week, the universe sent me what it “thought” I was asking for… In the beginning of April I began saying to myself, “I need a vacation, time to just relax and do nothing” however I was not specific about how or where I wanted to do this, all I could “feel” when I talk to myself through words or thoughts, was being alone and doing nothing.

So guess what? Last Monday I awoke with a cold in my scratchy throat, exhausted and spent Monday through Thursday morning “lolling” in bed. Napping and just keeping to myself.. hmmm not the vacation I thought I was yearning for!

Almost one week and a half later, I am still clearing my throat, sniffling a bit but NOW imagining how lush it “feels” to luxuriate on a warm beach in the sun with a cool breeze, full of vibrant energy, walking along the shore, laughing and singing, holding hands with my special man… let’s see what these words will bring in the coming weeks!

Words, I love the words in this song:

“all you have to do is close your eyes and just reach out your hand”

can you imagine the feelings this evokes.. I can..

Words.. I am now more aware to have my words aligned inside & out, aligned with my feeling, inside & out

Embrace the Joys of the Season

Embrace the Joys of the Season,
Embrace Each Other.
Express your Love for One and Other,
These vibrations will reach all mankind, all living things.

We Are All Connected….
Thank you to all, the bright lights in my life, for
Reminding Me to Feel the Love,
Reminding Me to Embrace the Moments,
Inspiring me yet another day, I am so grateful.

My wish for all is that you Feel the Love Surrounding you,
Embrace each Joyful Moment, today, tomorrow and always,
with Peace in every Heart.

Enjoy A Glorious Holiday Season of Love, Peace & Joy
Embrace An Inspired Abundant 2013,

With Love and Laughter,
Lois
“Breathe
~it only takes a moment to take a breath, it only takes a moment to become inspired”  Lois Kramer-Perez