Gratitude in the Face of Frustration, by Lois Kramer-Perez, C.Ht.

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Here we are in the month of November, a time of harvest, sharing & gratitude.

As I look around enjoying the shift in seasons, taking in the magic of autumn here in the northeast, just when I thought I had seen it all,
pow – here comes something else.
We are constantly finding chaos around us, some minor, some major, some chaos is part of our doing & some is out of our control.
How often do you find yourself frustrated, annoyed or even angry at the state of the world?
How can you feel gratitude in the face of so much unrest?

In the best of times there will always be something triggering our emotions.

Here are some things to remember:
You are only responsible for you. You do not have the “power” to “fix” anyone.
You do have the power to take care of yourself, to become grounded, to find your peace & your gratitude. You deserve this and more.
You do have the power to be compassionate, kind, and caring: first to yourself, then your capacity to be for others is greatly enhanced.

How to get started? How to get out of all the noise?
Begin with you.
Find a quiet place, sit comfortably and be with yourself, take this time to “notice.”
Focus on the moment, find 3 things you are grateful for right now & experience the feeling.
Example: I am grateful to sit here comfortably. I am grateful to see the sunshine/moonlight/clouds/raindrops. I am grateful I can feel this gratitude and peace within me.

The world is filled with peace, chaos, gratitude, resentment, joy, sadness, hope & despair. It can be challenging to not get swept away in all these emotions.

Everyday life can pull you in all directions. The more you can manage daily life, the stronger your foundation of grounding becomes. You have a greater capacity to feel gratitude & be compassionate when you are grounded.
You will be surprised how one small thing can make a difference.

This is what happened recently happened to me.

I got in my car to go to a workshop at a place I have never been, with people I had not yet met.
As I began to drive, I noticed something smelled! Sniff sniff, is it me? Do I have body odor?
This is bad. I look down in the cup holder & I see remnants of onion salsa – Oy! My boyfriend drove my car yesterday – this is what he leaves me? Now I am fuming! I am going to stink & bring this stink into a new place, meeting new people – how horrifying!


Then it hit me, I must be in a “Seinfeld episode.” There was an episode of the show “Seinfeld” where the parking attendant contaminated ‘Jerry’s car” with a pungent odor. Everyone who drove or rode in his car came out smelling! I started to laugh silly – I must be “Elaine”.  By the time I reached my destination, I was feeling wonderful, grateful to enjoy the day, rather than show up in a fowl angry mood.  Feeling grateful I didn’t bring the “stink” into the room with me. Feeling grateful to enjoy a wonderful workshop, learning new things, meeting new people.

This could have gone another way; I could have continued to get angry at a situation I had no control over. A minor event could have distracted me to a point where I was more concerned about “me” rather than grateful for this enjoyable opportunity.  Has something like this ever happened to you?  I am sure it has.

Learning to do the best you can in any situation can change the dynamic of the outcome.

Your biggest influence on others is much more than the words you say, it is how you are “being”.
How do you want to influence those around you? Be grateful for where you are, what you have, who you “be.” You will find it all coming back to you in abundance!

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We all have the ability to change emotional patterns in our life. The first step is changing our relationship to these charges of energy we feel which show up as emotions, triggered by events, others, scents or even sounds. I am sure we have all experienced walking into a room and noticing it feels a bit chilly, as if an argument had just taken place, or sense that something just doesn’t feel right.

Our bodies respond to information based on what it knows, for instance – if we feel the emotion of impatience, our body will recall chemicals flooding throughout our body supporting that feeling. The more we confirm the feeling of impatience – the stronger the support becomes. We then decide that we are impatient. That is our reaction. We do this all day long, unaware it may not even be our experience, but someone else’s. Our reaction has us believe that We Are that feeling, impatience, we then begin to “judge” how we are feeling, which only strengthens theimpatience, creating distraction.
This reaction happens in an instant.

As we change our experience noticing and responding to these feelings, we become aware. We have the ability to use new tools to begin moving from “reacting” to “responding”

Here are a few tips to get you started:

First: Notice the feeling that arises and how your body is responding – do not judge it, become aware that this is just information, it is not who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are not that feeling.
Acknowledge you have felt this feeling before, and you will feel it again in your lifetime. Notice, this is just how your body responds to this particular information. Take 2 deep breaths.

Second: Redirect your thoughts: Replace the thought with something positive: such as:
This feels like frustration, but I am not frustrated, my body is responding to this situation based on its familiar reaction. Now that this is done, I feel relieved, clear and grounded, all of those distractions from this situation are gone. I am focused, I feel positive, I am refreshed, and I am grounded and clear.

Do Not Judge Yourself, Be Gentle With Yourself… As we practice noticing these feelings little by little, we can begin to reduce the intensity of the feeling and shorten the duration of the experience, little by little, breath by breath. We soon find that we can notice these feelings without becoming distracted or overwhelmed.  We enjoy our new relationship with all of our feelings through awareness. Life best enjoyed as we are participating and experiencing.

Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt.  is a Certified Feng Shui Practitioner & Educator working with people creating healthy abundant lifestyles embracing the feng shui principles for people, places and things. Visit https://loiskramerperez.com/30-second-vacation-with-lois/ to view Lois’ videos, a fabulous tool to help you redirect your thoughts, it only takes 2 deep breaths. Lois would love to hear from you, contact her at lois@loiskramerperez.com 201.906.5767

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Sitting and dreaming and hoping is not going to make it happen if we do not get involved in the process.
Expect the unexpected, Participate in the process.