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IT’S NOT MINE! TOOLS FOR MANAGING STRESS IN DAILY LIFE

“It’s Not Mine!”
Uh-Oh- I notice a feeling – all of a sudden, it’s the feeling of impatience – but wait a moment, I am having a great day, where did this come from? It must be information my body is noticing.
Any feeling we have ever experienced is a vibration our body remembers.
We are human tuning forks, so it makes sense when we are in a remembered vibration we are triggered, those are the subtle signals.

How about when we are in the midst of a discussion and the other person is emotional, or we are next to someone who is afraid – vibrating terror – yep – we connect with those too.

This happened to me, although I didn’t know it at the time. Sitting next to my 5-year-old sister in a blackout, with just a flashlight between us, she began to cry. So, her 9-year-old big sister, me- started crying too.
Before I knew it we were both wailing in terror! My dad came running in “what’s wrong?” All I could do was sob “I don’t know” I recall I was feeling really scared. I now know my sisters fear triggered mine,

We have the ability to change emotional patterns in our life.
We can learn to manage the stress we are bombarded with in our daily lives.
The first step is changing our relationship to these charges of energy we feel which show up as emotions, triggered by events, others, scents or even sounds. I am sure we have all experienced walking into a room and noticing it feels a bit chilly, as if an argument had just taken place, or sense that something just doesn’t feel right.

Our bodies respond to information based on what it knows, for instance – if we feel the emotion of impatience, our body will recall chemicals flooding throughout our body supporting that feeling. The more we confirm the feeling of impatience – the stronger the support becomes.
We then decide that we are impatient.

That is our reaction.

We do this all day long, unaware it may not even be our experience, but someone else’s.
Our reaction has us believe that We Are that feeling, impatience, we then begin to “judge” how we are feeling, which only strengthens the impatience, creating distraction.

This reaction happens in an instant.

As we change our experience noticing and responding to these feelings, we become aware.
We have the ability to use new tools to begin moving from “reacting” to “responding”

Here are a few tips to get you started:
First: Notice the feeling that arises and how your body is responding – do not judge it, become aware that this is just information, it is not who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are not that feeling.
Acknowledge you have felt this feeling before, and you will feel it again in your lifetime. Notice, this is just how your body responds to this particular information. Take 2 deep breaths.

Second: Redirect your thoughts: Replace the thought with something positive: such as:
This feels like frustration, but I am not frustrated, my body is responding to this situation based on its familiar reaction. Now that this is done, I feel relieved, clear and grounded, all of those distractions from this situation are gone. I am focused, I feel positive, I am refreshed, and I am grounded and clear.

Do Not Judge Yourself, Be Gentle With Yourself… As we practice noticing these feelings little by little, we can begin to reduce the intensity of the feeling and shorten the duration of the experience, little by little, breath by breath. We soon find that we can notice these feelings without becoming distracted or overwhelmed. We enjoy our new relationship with all of our feelings through awareness. Life best enjoyed as we are participating and experiencing.
Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt. is a Certified Feng Shui Practitioner & Educator working with people creating healthy abundant lifestyles embracing the feng shui principles for people, places and things. Visit https://loiskramerperez.com/30-second-vacation-with-lois/ to view Lois’ videos, a fabulous tool to help you redirect your thoughts, it only takes 2 deep breaths. Lois would love to hear from you, contact her at lois@loiskramerperez.com 201.906.5767

“A Shoe In ~ Or A Shoe Off? That Is The Question”

A Shoe-In or A Shoe-Off! That is the question!

I am sure you have your unique patterns, actions that are automatic, things you do without thinking, day after day, month after month, year after year…


The more you do it, the stronger it becomes.
It happens without a conscious thought.

I’ll share one of my “automatic patterns” ~ I don’t wear “outside shoes” inside my home.
The first thing I do when I come inside is take off my shoes.
I have my slippers waiting, and sometimes just walk barefoot.
For my guests I have a basket of assorted clean and cozy slippers.
The other day, wearing my special “inside” purple slippers, I stepped outside the front door for a moment, a few minutes later, I noticed I was bare-footed!
Without even thinking, because I had stepped outside, when I came in I took off my “shoes.”


We create these automatic patterns all the time.
Think about the things you do, the thoughts you have, the things you say,  without a conscious awareness.


If you created it ~ you can change it!


In the meantime, begin noticing your automatic patterns !
Are they a shoe-in for what you desire?
Or is it time to take the shoe off!!
If you are interested in taking that “outdated shoe off” and replacing it with a “new shoe on ” you can join me at one of my guided clearing meditation classes, my personal clearing class or experience a past life regression.
https://loiskramerperez.com/my-events/     https://loiskramerperez.com/wwm/meditation-class/
 
Oh yes… I did wear my slippers out to Dunkin Donuts one day ~ another moment being lost in the thoughts
Sunshine and the Rainy Day Jar

Its a beautiful day to capture the sunshine in my “rainy day jar”.  I don’t know about you, but when there are too many long grey days, I find my chi (energy) evaporating. I created this “rainy day jar” to lift my chi with laughter sunshine sparkle and all things that activate happy!

The sun has come out after many grey days, so I wanted to honor my inner light and charge up this jar with sunshine and crystal chi.

Today I added some sparkling faceted crystals and amazing amethyst

to my shells, gumby and rainbow troll.

I am reminded on this glorious sunny days to pay attention to all things which lift me.

As I find these things along the way, I add them to the jar to brighten my day.

Here is my guide to create your own “Rainy Day Jar”

Find a glass jar or bowl which you love. I have been scouring antique shops for crystal candy dishes.

Look around and see what you have that lifts you up:
Sea shells, sand, crystals, photos of people, places or things.
You can think of this as a “vision jar” by placing your dreams in the jar.
Cotton balls for fluffy clouds, cut out a smiling sun 
Words of Inspiration
Use your imagination.

Place the items in the jar, smiling and feeling the uplifting joy as you do.
Remember a story connected with each item as you touch it.
Experience your feelings with joy.

Place the jar where you can see it everyday, reminding you of the joy in your life.
Inspiring you to add more joy to the jar as you feel it.

Now that’s Fabulous Feng Shui!

I would love to hear your inspirations for your “Rainy Day Jar”

 

Can’t Stop Laughin” ~ Oh What A Feeling!

When was the last time you realized something so silly… you couldn’t stop laughing?

This happens quite a bit, however this last one is a doozy!
I loved it so much I placed it in my Rainy Day Jar… I added the word “Feat”
rainy day jar
Listening to lots of music on my recent road trip ~ I noticed  many artists are now collaborating together..
One group caught my attention as they seemed to appear with a variety of artists..
They showed up again while listening to Keith Urban “the Fighter.” Collaborating with Keith Urban was Feat and Kelly Clarkson..
Here they are again.. “Feat”! I asked my cousin.. who is this band “Feat” ?
They are turning up everywhere… with Sia and now Keith Urban!
I need to know who they are!
My cousin smiled and said.. “that is not a band, it means “featuring” it is Keith Urban “featuring” Kelly Clarkson!
Ha! How obvious! How did I not get that? Wow! I couldn’t stop laughing… and every time I think about it.. I laugh even more ! Oy! such a feeling! I love it…
Now that’s Fabulous Feng Shui Fire Energy!
Feng Shui Fire Energy is Fun ~ Fabulous and Dramatic… Which is why I was so struck by the silliness of my discovery.  We can use these connections to keep us flexible and open to experience the magic around us.
What is the most obvious thing you learned that made you laugh? that is still making you laugh? I’d love to hear it!
Which brings me to my pal Justin Timberlake singing!
Embrace the Feeling! Dance Dance Dance – Can You Feel The Fun Emerging!

 

Fun With Maria Mirkovich on Family Today

I had so much fun with Maria taping her show “Family Today with Maria Mirkovich”

Enjoy!

Feng Shui Fun Holiday Tip #2


vision board photo

Movement should be effortless throughout your home,

meandering as if you are a stream of water

flowing easily from room to room with ample space around furniture and objects.

We are coming into the season of winter, the element of water, the energy of adaptability and flow.

It is a perfect time to dream of our hearts desires and make plans for the coming New Year.

Connecting to the feelings of our thoughts and dreams,
we find we can make it so!

 

 

 

 

Sometimes We Just Need Some Happy

 

Sometimes we just need some happy, no reason, no rational explanation required.
Take a Happy 30 Second Vacation with Lois

Enjoy!

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Embrace All Which You Can Become

“When I Let go of what I am I become what I might be..” ~ Lao Tzu
Can You?

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Feng Shui and Fabulous for Romance

cropped all I ask of you painting with mandarin duck couple

Looking for romance, looking for love? Look no further, the place to begin is by looking within.  Who we are inside ourselves is the energy we are projecting, every day, every moment, with each breath.

Very often people look for love outside of who they are. First we must look inside, embrace ourselves to find the love within, to be ourselves with purpose, only then can we begin to attract the love and romance that is perfect for us.

“We are what we think, all that we are arises in our thoughts, with our thoughts we make our world” The Buddha, wise man was he.  This quote reminds us that, what we think, how we think, all of our thoughts that are deep within our subconscious, create the world in which we choose to live.  The principles of Feng Shui, guide us to open our awareness, help us connect to our subconscious as we create an environment supporting who we want to be.  When we begin to notice how the objects in our life make us feel, we can then make conscious choices to select those which make us feel, happy, energetic, inspired and confident.  We have all noticed when we are feeling fabulous; the whole world seems fabulous too! Smiling and cheerful everything around us is smiling back, everything is smooth and easy, any bumps or stumbles along the way are insignificant.

Let’s begin by connecting to what fills us with joy. Our actions speak louder than words and there is no mistaking how vibrant we project our energy when we are passionate about what we are doing. We attract what we are projecting, “like gets like” people begin to notice, they are curious to see what is going on so they can get in on this phenomena of feeling groovy! Let’s start with our daily routines, as we focus our energy on those aspects we love, the less exciting will fade into the background. That which we give our attention and energy is that which we continue to create.  

I am a daydream believer! I do believe that our daydreams serve a very important purpose in our lives. As we dream our wildest and most fabulous dreams, we begin to create our new reality. I dreamed up an ipod that arrived as an unexpected gift, as well as an art studio in my home that came with a boyfriend! We want to see ourselves becoming our dreams, feel it as if it is already happening, smile and allow our emotions to fill us; we begin to activate forces allowing us to step into our new reality attracting the relationship that is healthy and perfect for us.

The easiest way to make this happen is to surround ourselves with the perfect scenarios. We want to be sure our subconscious has plenty of information to download; we are consciously setting our subconscious on automatic.

Here are some feng shui tips to get us started:

1.       Create Fabulous Firsts: What we see is what we become. When we surround ourselves with objects that create the feelings of the relationship we desire, that is exactly what our will energy project.

2.      Just Do It! Engaging in our favorite activities or exploring new interests finds us in the right places at the right times.

3.      Make A List and Check It Twice!  When we write it down, the action connects deep within. As we make our list describing our perfect relationship: written in the present tense, we feel the emotion of each item. Place this list in where we will see it every day: in our underwear drawer or the cabinet in the bathroom we open every morning.  We don’t even need to read the list, just noticing the paper or the envelope will trigger all our desires and emotions connected to those words reinforcing our intentions. Connecting to our vision of romance.

4.      Create A Sacred Space: Our bedroom is our most personal and intimate room. Objects in this room should connect to our sense of romance. A couple entwined in an embrace, a scene of a favorite romantic location, whatever that sense of two personally means to us. We should minimize photos or objects connecting to “outsiders” in our bedroom, such as family and friends.

5.      Make Room For Someone New. Now that they have found us, let’s make room for them; begin living as if they have already arrived.  Create space so that our new partner feels as if they belong: a place to sit and space for their stuff in the closet and drawers. Breathe in the feeling of romance.

6.      3 x 9 Game: Make a list of 3 things to do different every day for 9 days. Check each item off the list at the end of each day. This can include removing items in our home, office or car, changing a daily routine or changing a position of objects throughout our home, always paying close attention to what is going on in our bedroom. As we begin changing our regular patterns, we become available for new opportunities and adventures.

7.      Stay true to who we are: Be ourselves with purpose. Do not lose sight of who we are, the reason we attracted our new love in the first place.

*original painting by Tom James www.tomjamesgallery.com

Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt.  Is an Intuitive Practitioner offering her clients tools using simple techniques for awareness, clarity and empowerment, creating change in their lives from the inside out. Visit www.loiskramerperez.com for services & event schedule. Lois would love to hear from you, contact her at lois@loiskramerperez.com 201.906.5767

 

 

Always Remember, that’s what friends are for…

We have a powerful weekend upon us.
Thursday September 19 we have our full moon 

Saturday Sept 21 is International Day of Peace,

Sunday Sept 22 the Harvest Moon bringing in the Autumn Equinox,  

Many of you will be celebrating with us on Friday Sept 20 to honor these events. 

 

A song came to into my awareness that brings to mind, relationships, communication, and our love for each other.  

A reminder we need not keep score, just enjoy our moments of friendship with our dearest both near and far.

Tell A Friend You Love Them..   

When we have peace in our hearts, we can have peace in the world.

Everyone of us makes a difference. 

“Breathe, It Only Takes A Moment to Take A Breath, It Only Takes A Moment to Become Inspired” ~ Lois Kramer-Perez

Enjoy the song, and sing along..

That’s What Friends Are For – Dionne Warwick