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IT’S NOT MINE! TOOLS FOR MANAGING STRESS IN DAILY LIFE

“It’s Not Mine!”
Uh-Oh- I notice a feeling – all of a sudden, it’s the feeling of impatience – but wait a moment, I am having a great day, where did this come from? It must be information my body is noticing.
Any feeling we have ever experienced is a vibration our body remembers.
We are human tuning forks, so it makes sense when we are in a remembered vibration we are triggered, those are the subtle signals.

How about when we are in the midst of a discussion and the other person is emotional, or we are next to someone who is afraid – vibrating terror – yep – we connect with those too.

This happened to me, although I didn’t know it at the time. Sitting next to my 5-year-old sister in a blackout, with just a flashlight between us, she began to cry. So, her 9-year-old big sister, me- started crying too.
Before I knew it we were both wailing in terror! My dad came running in “what’s wrong?” All I could do was sob “I don’t know” I recall I was feeling really scared. I now know my sisters fear triggered mine,

We have the ability to change emotional patterns in our life.
We can learn to manage the stress we are bombarded with in our daily lives.
The first step is changing our relationship to these charges of energy we feel which show up as emotions, triggered by events, others, scents or even sounds. I am sure we have all experienced walking into a room and noticing it feels a bit chilly, as if an argument had just taken place, or sense that something just doesn’t feel right.

Our bodies respond to information based on what it knows, for instance – if we feel the emotion of impatience, our body will recall chemicals flooding throughout our body supporting that feeling. The more we confirm the feeling of impatience – the stronger the support becomes.
We then decide that we are impatient.

That is our reaction.

We do this all day long, unaware it may not even be our experience, but someone else’s.
Our reaction has us believe that We Are that feeling, impatience, we then begin to “judge” how we are feeling, which only strengthens the impatience, creating distraction.

This reaction happens in an instant.

As we change our experience noticing and responding to these feelings, we become aware.
We have the ability to use new tools to begin moving from “reacting” to “responding”

Here are a few tips to get you started:
First: Notice the feeling that arises and how your body is responding – do not judge it, become aware that this is just information, it is not who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are not that feeling.
Acknowledge you have felt this feeling before, and you will feel it again in your lifetime. Notice, this is just how your body responds to this particular information. Take 2 deep breaths.

Second: Redirect your thoughts: Replace the thought with something positive: such as:
This feels like frustration, but I am not frustrated, my body is responding to this situation based on its familiar reaction. Now that this is done, I feel relieved, clear and grounded, all of those distractions from this situation are gone. I am focused, I feel positive, I am refreshed, and I am grounded and clear.

Do Not Judge Yourself, Be Gentle With Yourself… As we practice noticing these feelings little by little, we can begin to reduce the intensity of the feeling and shorten the duration of the experience, little by little, breath by breath. We soon find that we can notice these feelings without becoming distracted or overwhelmed. We enjoy our new relationship with all of our feelings through awareness. Life best enjoyed as we are participating and experiencing.
Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt. is a Certified Feng Shui Practitioner & Educator working with people creating healthy abundant lifestyles embracing the feng shui principles for people, places and things. Visit https://loiskramerperez.com/30-second-vacation-with-lois/ to view Lois’ videos, a fabulous tool to help you redirect your thoughts, it only takes 2 deep breaths. Lois would love to hear from you, contact her at lois@loiskramerperez.com 201.906.5767

“A Shoe In ~ Or A Shoe Off? That Is The Question”

A Shoe-In or A Shoe-Off! That is the question!

I am sure you have your unique patterns, actions that are automatic, things you do without thinking, day after day, month after month, year after year…


The more you do it, the stronger it becomes.
It happens without a conscious thought.

I’ll share one of my “automatic patterns” ~ I don’t wear “outside shoes” inside my home.
The first thing I do when I come inside is take off my shoes.
I have my slippers waiting, and sometimes just walk barefoot.
For my guests I have a basket of assorted clean and cozy slippers.
The other day, wearing my special “inside” purple slippers, I stepped outside the front door for a moment, a few minutes later, I noticed I was bare-footed!
Without even thinking, because I had stepped outside, when I came in I took off my “shoes.”


We create these automatic patterns all the time.
Think about the things you do, the thoughts you have, the things you say,  without a conscious awareness.


If you created it ~ you can change it!


In the meantime, begin noticing your automatic patterns !
Are they a shoe-in for what you desire?
Or is it time to take the shoe off!!
If you are interested in taking that “outdated shoe off” and replacing it with a “new shoe on ” you can join me at one of my guided clearing meditation classes, my personal clearing class or experience a past life regression.
https://loiskramerperez.com/my-events/     https://loiskramerperez.com/wwm/meditation-class/
 
Oh yes… I did wear my slippers out to Dunkin Donuts one day ~ another moment being lost in the thoughts
Sunshine and the Rainy Day Jar

Its a beautiful day to capture the sunshine in my “rainy day jar”.  I don’t know about you, but when there are too many long grey days, I find my chi (energy) evaporating. I created this “rainy day jar” to lift my chi with laughter sunshine sparkle and all things that activate happy!

The sun has come out after many grey days, so I wanted to honor my inner light and charge up this jar with sunshine and crystal chi.

Today I added some sparkling faceted crystals and amazing amethyst

to my shells, gumby and rainbow troll.

I am reminded on this glorious sunny days to pay attention to all things which lift me.

As I find these things along the way, I add them to the jar to brighten my day.

Here is my guide to create your own “Rainy Day Jar”

Find a glass jar or bowl which you love. I have been scouring antique shops for crystal candy dishes.

Look around and see what you have that lifts you up:
Sea shells, sand, crystals, photos of people, places or things.
You can think of this as a “vision jar” by placing your dreams in the jar.
Cotton balls for fluffy clouds, cut out a smiling sun 
Words of Inspiration
Use your imagination.

Place the items in the jar, smiling and feeling the uplifting joy as you do.
Remember a story connected with each item as you touch it.
Experience your feelings with joy.

Place the jar where you can see it everyday, reminding you of the joy in your life.
Inspiring you to add more joy to the jar as you feel it.

Now that’s Fabulous Feng Shui!

I would love to hear your inspirations for your “Rainy Day Jar”

 

peace in every breath

Have Fabulous Feng Shui Everyday ~ And the dish ran away with the spoon!

Here is my holiday story for you.

My friend Betsy gave me this lovely peace sign door ornament. It is made from tiny bells, it doesn’t jingle too much, it has a festive feeling but most of all it makes me smile. When I see this peace sign I think about my friend,

peace in every breath

fabulous front door feng shui every day

how grateful I am to know her, how much fun we have together, how we inspire each other. I also am reminded to feel peace in every breath.

There is a part of me that connects to these feelings when I see this peace sign.
For each thought, there is a feeling. I am now anchoring an experience to looking at this peace sign. This anchor is creating these feelings whenever I see this peace sign. I do not need to do anything consciously, I automatically begin to smile and breathe peace in every cell.

Awesome stuff ~ right!

Guess what happened next ~ One day the peace sign disappeared. One moment it was on the door ~then next it was gone.

I looked everywhere. It was as if it vanished into thin air…  There was a feeling of frustration in the air!

I let it go, and every so often I would look around once more to see if I could find it.

I replayed the scene in my mind, to see what I could find that would give me a clue to where the peace sign had gone. I remembered I was taking out all the paper recycle materials. At the time, we did check the bags that were going out the door, nothing.

Whenever I would come home, I would think about that peace sign and how much I missed it. I googled and shmoogled everywhere to see if I could replace it. Nothing.

Then I just let it go.

Here is what happened next.

After another fabulous weekend away, enjoying nature, breathing peace into every cell. Feeling fulfilled by just being, I came home to find the peace sign back on the door once more.  Tom found it in the garage. We have no idea how it got there.

All of a sudden my light went on inside ~ I knew then it was not until I was aligned with peace inside of me that, my peace would show up once more on the outside. The day the peace sign ran away I can recall expressing frustration and irritability, certainly not the energy of peace.

I talk about this all the time, how we are human tuning forks attracting the frequencies which we are vibrating. This is a perfect example how our energy can change our experience. How “hey diddle diddle will cause the dish to run away with the spoon”! For whatever reason this is the rhyme that keeps showing up when these things happen, reminding me not to take myself so seriously, get out of those cranky pants, get up, laugh and dance!

So now all is well, peace is back in action, singing along a favorite song.  Let’s use this holiday spirit to share peace and every breath and love in every heart.

Put a little love in your heart.. and the world will be a better place and the dish will come home with the spoon!

 

Can You Feel It? Feng Shui Autumn Energy

Smile Into the Sky ~ Can you feel it?

I love the feeling as the season begins to change.

Feng Shui teaches us autumn is the season of metal element, a time for precision, completion and focus.
Can you feel the autumn energy? Feel the essence of metal.
I look up into the sky now appearing in high definition.
As the humidity evaporates, the air becomes crisp with each new day.
Soon the leaves will begin to turn, drop and their cycle will complete.
We will admire, enjoy and bask in the beauty of the transformation before our eyes.
I am ready for this renewed clarity before me.
I am ready to step into the element of metal to absorb the qualities for my greatest good.
I am inspired to create our Autumn Equinox Immersion Workshop to
Activate Our Third Eye
Now is the time to align to bring clarity to our vision.
Begin your experience now.
Open your awareness to the subtle shifts each day brings.
Be with the element of Mother Nature.
Embody the grace of metal.
Embrace the gifts of our new season
It’s a beautiful day.
Namaste.

Fun With Maria Mirkovich on Family Today

I had so much fun with Maria taping her show “Family Today with Maria Mirkovich”

Enjoy!

Feng Shui Fun Holiday Tip #2


vision board photo

Movement should be effortless throughout your home,

meandering as if you are a stream of water

flowing easily from room to room with ample space around furniture and objects.

We are coming into the season of winter, the element of water, the energy of adaptability and flow.

It is a perfect time to dream of our hearts desires and make plans for the coming New Year.

Connecting to the feelings of our thoughts and dreams,
we find we can make it so!

 

 

 

 

Sometimes We Just Need Some Happy

 

Sometimes we just need some happy, no reason, no rational explanation required.
Take a Happy 30 Second Vacation with Lois

Enjoy!

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Experience the Joys of the Rain

Enjoy the pitter patter of the rain,  smile as you take 2 deep breaths and you are ready for everything as you take a 30 second vacation™  with Lois

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