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IT’S NOT MINE! TOOLS FOR MANAGING STRESS IN DAILY LIFE

“It’s Not Mine!”
Uh-Oh- I notice a feeling – all of a sudden, it’s the feeling of impatience – but wait a moment, I am having a great day, where did this come from? It must be information my body is noticing.
Any feeling we have ever experienced is a vibration our body remembers.
We are human tuning forks, so it makes sense when we are in a remembered vibration we are triggered, those are the subtle signals.

How about when we are in the midst of a discussion and the other person is emotional, or we are next to someone who is afraid – vibrating terror – yep – we connect with those too.

This happened to me, although I didn’t know it at the time. Sitting next to my 5-year-old sister in a blackout, with just a flashlight between us, she began to cry. So, her 9-year-old big sister, me- started crying too.
Before I knew it we were both wailing in terror! My dad came running in “what’s wrong?” All I could do was sob “I don’t know” I recall I was feeling really scared. I now know my sisters fear triggered mine,

We have the ability to change emotional patterns in our life.
We can learn to manage the stress we are bombarded with in our daily lives.
The first step is changing our relationship to these charges of energy we feel which show up as emotions, triggered by events, others, scents or even sounds. I am sure we have all experienced walking into a room and noticing it feels a bit chilly, as if an argument had just taken place, or sense that something just doesn’t feel right.

Our bodies respond to information based on what it knows, for instance – if we feel the emotion of impatience, our body will recall chemicals flooding throughout our body supporting that feeling. The more we confirm the feeling of impatience – the stronger the support becomes.
We then decide that we are impatient.

That is our reaction.

We do this all day long, unaware it may not even be our experience, but someone else’s.
Our reaction has us believe that We Are that feeling, impatience, we then begin to “judge” how we are feeling, which only strengthens the impatience, creating distraction.

This reaction happens in an instant.

As we change our experience noticing and responding to these feelings, we become aware.
We have the ability to use new tools to begin moving from “reacting” to “responding”

Here are a few tips to get you started:
First: Notice the feeling that arises and how your body is responding – do not judge it, become aware that this is just information, it is not who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are not that feeling.
Acknowledge you have felt this feeling before, and you will feel it again in your lifetime. Notice, this is just how your body responds to this particular information. Take 2 deep breaths.

Second: Redirect your thoughts: Replace the thought with something positive: such as:
This feels like frustration, but I am not frustrated, my body is responding to this situation based on its familiar reaction. Now that this is done, I feel relieved, clear and grounded, all of those distractions from this situation are gone. I am focused, I feel positive, I am refreshed, and I am grounded and clear.

Do Not Judge Yourself, Be Gentle With Yourself… As we practice noticing these feelings little by little, we can begin to reduce the intensity of the feeling and shorten the duration of the experience, little by little, breath by breath. We soon find that we can notice these feelings without becoming distracted or overwhelmed. We enjoy our new relationship with all of our feelings through awareness. Life best enjoyed as we are participating and experiencing.
Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt. is a Certified Feng Shui Practitioner & Educator working with people creating healthy abundant lifestyles embracing the feng shui principles for people, places and things. Visit https://loiskramerperez.com/30-second-vacation-with-lois/ to view Lois’ videos, a fabulous tool to help you redirect your thoughts, it only takes 2 deep breaths. Lois would love to hear from you, contact her at lois@loiskramerperez.com 201.906.5767

“A Shoe-In or A Shoe-Off! That is the question! A Guide to Awareness
“A Shoe In ~ Or A Shoe Off? That Is The Question”

A Shoe-In or A Shoe-Off! That is the question!

I am sure you have your unique patterns, actions that are automatic, things you do without thinking, day after day, month after month, year after year…


The more you do it, the stronger it becomes.
It happens without a conscious thought.

I’ll share one of my “automatic patterns” ~ I don’t wear “outside shoes” inside my home.
The first thing I do when I come inside is take off my shoes.
I have my slippers waiting, and sometimes just walk barefoot.
For my guests I have a basket of assorted clean and cozy slippers.
The other day, wearing my special “inside” purple slippers, I stepped outside the front door for a moment, a few minutes later, I noticed I was bare-footed!
Without even thinking, because I had stepped outside, when I came in I took off my “shoes.”


We create these automatic patterns all the time.
Think about the things you do, the thoughts you have, the things you say,  without a conscious awareness.


If you created it ~ you can change it!


In the meantime, begin noticing your automatic patterns !
Are they a shoe-in for what you desire?
Or is it time to take the shoe off!!
If you are interested in taking that “outdated shoe off” and replacing it with a “new shoe on ” you can join me at one of my guided clearing meditation classes, my personal clearing class or experience a past life regression.
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Oh yes… I did wear my slippers out to Dunkin Donuts one day ~ another moment being lost in the thoughts
Feng Shui, Full Moon in Leo,
I’m With Leo! Feng Shui, The Moon In Leo and YOU

I’m With Leo!

I know who to hang with,

I Love Leo, I Love the Moon and I Love You.

OOoooo what a little feng shui can do for you!

Many of you have heard me sing this tune..

Feng Shui reminds us to look to nature for inspiration.

Look to the rainbows, the sunrise and sunsets.
Mother Nature has it covered!

She brings us the Moon in Leo – Sundown Thursday August 18 to Sundown August 19.

Get ready for power! Set your intentions for the biggest day  filled with LOVE – the most powerful of the year!

This is the perfect time to begin things during this new phase.

There is so much light that whatever we put into motion will progress much faster than any other time of the year.

Be mindful of our thoughts, words, actions.

This is the day to choose our thoughts with divine intention.

This is the day to choose our words and actions specifically for what we desire.

We are human tuning-forks!

Whatever we put out there is what we will attract!

Like attracts Like.

Be The Light.

Be The Love.

Mother Nature will take it from there.

Namaste; The Light In Me Recognizes the Light In You – Let’s Share the Light.

Fun With Maria Mirkovich on Family Today

I had so much fun with Maria taping her show “Family Today with Maria Mirkovich”

Enjoy!

“Ooooo What A Little Feng Shui Can Do For You”

Find out what a little Feng Shui Can Do For YOU!

I had so much fun chatting with Maria about, Life, Feng Shui and Awareness..

Interview with Maria Mirkovich Family Today –  Thursday May 21, 2015!

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Embrace All Which You Can Become

“When I Let go of what I am I become what I might be..” ~ Lao Tzu
Can You?

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Feng Shui and Fabulous for Romance

cropped all I ask of you painting with mandarin duck couple

Looking for romance, looking for love? Look no further, the place to begin is by looking within.  Who we are inside ourselves is the energy we are projecting, every day, every moment, with each breath.

Very often people look for love outside of who they are. First we must look inside, embrace ourselves to find the love within, to be ourselves with purpose, only then can we begin to attract the love and romance that is perfect for us.

“We are what we think, all that we are arises in our thoughts, with our thoughts we make our world” The Buddha, wise man was he.  This quote reminds us that, what we think, how we think, all of our thoughts that are deep within our subconscious, create the world in which we choose to live.  The principles of Feng Shui, guide us to open our awareness, help us connect to our subconscious as we create an environment supporting who we want to be.  When we begin to notice how the objects in our life make us feel, we can then make conscious choices to select those which make us feel, happy, energetic, inspired and confident.  We have all noticed when we are feeling fabulous; the whole world seems fabulous too! Smiling and cheerful everything around us is smiling back, everything is smooth and easy, any bumps or stumbles along the way are insignificant.

Let’s begin by connecting to what fills us with joy. Our actions speak louder than words and there is no mistaking how vibrant we project our energy when we are passionate about what we are doing. We attract what we are projecting, “like gets like” people begin to notice, they are curious to see what is going on so they can get in on this phenomena of feeling groovy! Let’s start with our daily routines, as we focus our energy on those aspects we love, the less exciting will fade into the background. That which we give our attention and energy is that which we continue to create.  

I am a daydream believer! I do believe that our daydreams serve a very important purpose in our lives. As we dream our wildest and most fabulous dreams, we begin to create our new reality. I dreamed up an ipod that arrived as an unexpected gift, as well as an art studio in my home that came with a boyfriend! We want to see ourselves becoming our dreams, feel it as if it is already happening, smile and allow our emotions to fill us; we begin to activate forces allowing us to step into our new reality attracting the relationship that is healthy and perfect for us.

The easiest way to make this happen is to surround ourselves with the perfect scenarios. We want to be sure our subconscious has plenty of information to download; we are consciously setting our subconscious on automatic.

Here are some feng shui tips to get us started:

1.       Create Fabulous Firsts: What we see is what we become. When we surround ourselves with objects that create the feelings of the relationship we desire, that is exactly what our will energy project.

2.      Just Do It! Engaging in our favorite activities or exploring new interests finds us in the right places at the right times.

3.      Make A List and Check It Twice!  When we write it down, the action connects deep within. As we make our list describing our perfect relationship: written in the present tense, we feel the emotion of each item. Place this list in where we will see it every day: in our underwear drawer or the cabinet in the bathroom we open every morning.  We don’t even need to read the list, just noticing the paper or the envelope will trigger all our desires and emotions connected to those words reinforcing our intentions. Connecting to our vision of romance.

4.      Create A Sacred Space: Our bedroom is our most personal and intimate room. Objects in this room should connect to our sense of romance. A couple entwined in an embrace, a scene of a favorite romantic location, whatever that sense of two personally means to us. We should minimize photos or objects connecting to “outsiders” in our bedroom, such as family and friends.

5.      Make Room For Someone New. Now that they have found us, let’s make room for them; begin living as if they have already arrived.  Create space so that our new partner feels as if they belong: a place to sit and space for their stuff in the closet and drawers. Breathe in the feeling of romance.

6.      3 x 9 Game: Make a list of 3 things to do different every day for 9 days. Check each item off the list at the end of each day. This can include removing items in our home, office or car, changing a daily routine or changing a position of objects throughout our home, always paying close attention to what is going on in our bedroom. As we begin changing our regular patterns, we become available for new opportunities and adventures.

7.      Stay true to who we are: Be ourselves with purpose. Do not lose sight of who we are, the reason we attracted our new love in the first place.

*original painting by Tom James www.tomjamesgallery.com

Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt.  Is an Intuitive Practitioner offering her clients tools using simple techniques for awareness, clarity and empowerment, creating change in their lives from the inside out. Visit www.loiskramerperez.com for services & event schedule. Lois would love to hear from you, contact her at lois@loiskramerperez.com 201.906.5767

 

 

Riding the Energy of Autumn

 “We are what we think,
All that we are arises in our thoughts,
With our thought we make our world” The Buddha

It is a common thread from science to spirituality that our thoughts and feelings are so powerful that we can manifest our hearts desires. In order to make our desires manifest and be sustainable, we need to activate all senses as we rehearse our desired future.

How we direct our thoughts is the key. Let us begin by aligning with the seasons.

Moving into the season of autumn- a contracting energy of completion, a time of vision and focus – it is the perfect time to create our visions to rehearse our future. We begin connecting to our subconscious redirecting our thoughts. We can choose how we respond to what we feel; we can choose how we respond to what we notice.

First we become aware.  

Second we notice.

Third we choose.

We may not control all of the things that happen in our life, but we do control how we choose to respond.  Let’s move from reacting to responding. Embrace the energy of this time of focus and vision. Connect to the clarity of mind this autumn season offers.

Our vision is clear; we are aware without distraction, notice what we feel.
Take a breath, notice the feeling, redirect a feeling of chaos or distraction to a feeling of focus, peace and calm. Here is a simple method to begin, practice focusing on your breath.

Take deep a breath in through your nose; follow your breath as it comes into your body, as it fills up your chest, your abdomen. Feel your body expanding. Smile.

As you exhale through your mouth, follow your breath as if leaves your body, relaxing into yourself, releasing. Smile.

Notice how you feel at that moment. This is just the beginning.

Stay tuned for our next step, how we can continue to redirect, tools we can use to create our visions to rehearse our future.