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IT’S NOT MINE! TOOLS FOR MANAGING STRESS IN DAILY LIFE

“It’s Not Mine!”
Uh-Oh- I notice a feeling – all of a sudden, it’s the feeling of impatience – but wait a moment, I am having a great day, where did this come from? It must be information my body is noticing.
Any feeling we have ever experienced is a vibration our body remembers.
We are human tuning forks, so it makes sense when we are in a remembered vibration we are triggered, those are the subtle signals.

How about when we are in the midst of a discussion and the other person is emotional, or we are next to someone who is afraid – vibrating terror – yep – we connect with those too.

This happened to me, although I didn’t know it at the time. Sitting next to my 5-year-old sister in a blackout, with just a flashlight between us, she began to cry. So, her 9-year-old big sister, me- started crying too.
Before I knew it we were both wailing in terror! My dad came running in “what’s wrong?” All I could do was sob “I don’t know” I recall I was feeling really scared. I now know my sisters fear triggered mine,

We have the ability to change emotional patterns in our life.
We can learn to manage the stress we are bombarded with in our daily lives.
The first step is changing our relationship to these charges of energy we feel which show up as emotions, triggered by events, others, scents or even sounds. I am sure we have all experienced walking into a room and noticing it feels a bit chilly, as if an argument had just taken place, or sense that something just doesn’t feel right.

Our bodies respond to information based on what it knows, for instance – if we feel the emotion of impatience, our body will recall chemicals flooding throughout our body supporting that feeling. The more we confirm the feeling of impatience – the stronger the support becomes.
We then decide that we are impatient.

That is our reaction.

We do this all day long, unaware it may not even be our experience, but someone else’s.
Our reaction has us believe that We Are that feeling, impatience, we then begin to “judge” how we are feeling, which only strengthens the impatience, creating distraction.

This reaction happens in an instant.

As we change our experience noticing and responding to these feelings, we become aware.
We have the ability to use new tools to begin moving from “reacting” to “responding”

Here are a few tips to get you started:
First: Notice the feeling that arises and how your body is responding – do not judge it, become aware that this is just information, it is not who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are not that feeling.
Acknowledge you have felt this feeling before, and you will feel it again in your lifetime. Notice, this is just how your body responds to this particular information. Take 2 deep breaths.

Second: Redirect your thoughts: Replace the thought with something positive: such as:
This feels like frustration, but I am not frustrated, my body is responding to this situation based on its familiar reaction. Now that this is done, I feel relieved, clear and grounded, all of those distractions from this situation are gone. I am focused, I feel positive, I am refreshed, and I am grounded and clear.

Do Not Judge Yourself, Be Gentle With Yourself… As we practice noticing these feelings little by little, we can begin to reduce the intensity of the feeling and shorten the duration of the experience, little by little, breath by breath. We soon find that we can notice these feelings without becoming distracted or overwhelmed. We enjoy our new relationship with all of our feelings through awareness. Life best enjoyed as we are participating and experiencing.
Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt. is a Certified Feng Shui Practitioner & Educator working with people creating healthy abundant lifestyles embracing the feng shui principles for people, places and things. Visit https://loiskramerperez.com/30-second-vacation-with-lois/ to view Lois’ videos, a fabulous tool to help you redirect your thoughts, it only takes 2 deep breaths. Lois would love to hear from you, contact her at lois@loiskramerperez.com 201.906.5767

“A Shoe In ~ Or A Shoe Off? That Is The Question”

A Shoe-In or A Shoe-Off! That is the question!

I am sure you have your unique patterns, actions that are automatic, things you do without thinking, day after day, month after month, year after year…


The more you do it, the stronger it becomes.
It happens without a conscious thought.

I’ll share one of my “automatic patterns” ~ I don’t wear “outside shoes” inside my home.
The first thing I do when I come inside is take off my shoes.
I have my slippers waiting, and sometimes just walk barefoot.
For my guests I have a basket of assorted clean and cozy slippers.
The other day, wearing my special “inside” purple slippers, I stepped outside the front door for a moment, a few minutes later, I noticed I was bare-footed!
Without even thinking, because I had stepped outside, when I came in I took off my “shoes.”


We create these automatic patterns all the time.
Think about the things you do, the thoughts you have, the things you say,  without a conscious awareness.


If you created it ~ you can change it!


In the meantime, begin noticing your automatic patterns !
Are they a shoe-in for what you desire?
Or is it time to take the shoe off!!
If you are interested in taking that “outdated shoe off” and replacing it with a “new shoe on ” you can join me at one of my guided clearing meditation classes, my personal clearing class or experience a past life regression.
https://loiskramerperez.com/my-events/     https://loiskramerperez.com/wwm/meditation-class/
 
Oh yes… I did wear my slippers out to Dunkin Donuts one day ~ another moment being lost in the thoughts
Dowsing
Pause, Breathe, and Now What?
Pause, Breathe, Play.
Sometimes the stage is set for us.
What can we do when circumstances are out of our control?
Go with the flow? Let it go?
Hmmm..  sometimes we do resist.  and that famous saying is “what we resist persists”
When we are stressed and someone says “Relax” – do we?
I don’t!
It has to come from within, it has to be our choice.
Create a new model.
Decide to Pause, when needed or when that is the best choice.
Choice. Decide to Choose.
How Do We Begin?

Our bodies respond to information based on what it knows, for instance – if we feel the emotion of anxiety, our body will recall the chemicals that support that feeling, the more we confirm the feeling of anxiety – the stronger the support becomes.  Now we are going to begin to change our relationship to how we notice and respond to these feeling. We move from “reaction” to “responding”

We feel the effects of charges of information we pick up all the time, as we “react” to a thought, it connects with our emotions, our body has a memory of how it reacts to these feelings, chemicals which support that feeling are sent rushing through our body, this our typical “reaction.” We then believe that We Are that feeling, we are frustrated, or we are angry, and then we begin to “judge” ourselves & how we are feeling, which only strengthens these feelings, creating distraction,

We begin, becoming aware, we pay attention and notice when we begin to feel a strong emotion – before we “react” and decide we are angry, upset, distracted by these “negative thoughts”, begin to redirect ourselves.

First: Notice the feeling that arises and how your body is responding – do not judge it, become aware that this is just information, it is not who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are not that feeling.

Acknowledge you have felt this feeling before, and will feel it again in your lifetime, but it is not who you are, it will not overwhelm you,

Second: Redirect your thoughts: Replace the thought supporting that feeling with something positive: such as: This feeling dealing with “x” feels like frustration, but I am not frustrated, that was just information as to how my body was responding to this situation, now that this is done, I feel relieved, clear and grounded, all of those distractions from this situation are gone. I am focused, I feel positive, I am refreshed, I am abundant.

We can create the state we can choose to become.
We practice our new power and state of being.
Practice Choosing.
Practice Being.

Play! Enjoy Life ~Because we can!

If you would like to hear more about this empowering tool, contact Lois at lois@loiskramerperez.com  she would love to set up a call to to tell you more.

 

peace in every breath

Have Fabulous Feng Shui Everyday ~ And the dish ran away with the spoon!

Here is my holiday story for you.

My friend Betsy gave me this lovely peace sign door ornament. It is made from tiny bells, it doesn’t jingle too much, it has a festive feeling but most of all it makes me smile. When I see this peace sign I think about my friend,

peace in every breath

fabulous front door feng shui every day

how grateful I am to know her, how much fun we have together, how we inspire each other. I also am reminded to feel peace in every breath.

There is a part of me that connects to these feelings when I see this peace sign.
For each thought, there is a feeling. I am now anchoring an experience to looking at this peace sign. This anchor is creating these feelings whenever I see this peace sign. I do not need to do anything consciously, I automatically begin to smile and breathe peace in every cell.

Awesome stuff ~ right!

Guess what happened next ~ One day the peace sign disappeared. One moment it was on the door ~then next it was gone.

I looked everywhere. It was as if it vanished into thin air…  There was a feeling of frustration in the air!

I let it go, and every so often I would look around once more to see if I could find it.

I replayed the scene in my mind, to see what I could find that would give me a clue to where the peace sign had gone. I remembered I was taking out all the paper recycle materials. At the time, we did check the bags that were going out the door, nothing.

Whenever I would come home, I would think about that peace sign and how much I missed it. I googled and shmoogled everywhere to see if I could replace it. Nothing.

Then I just let it go.

Here is what happened next.

After another fabulous weekend away, enjoying nature, breathing peace into every cell. Feeling fulfilled by just being, I came home to find the peace sign back on the door once more.  Tom found it in the garage. We have no idea how it got there.

All of a sudden my light went on inside ~ I knew then it was not until I was aligned with peace inside of me that, my peace would show up once more on the outside. The day the peace sign ran away I can recall expressing frustration and irritability, certainly not the energy of peace.

I talk about this all the time, how we are human tuning forks attracting the frequencies which we are vibrating. This is a perfect example how our energy can change our experience. How “hey diddle diddle will cause the dish to run away with the spoon”! For whatever reason this is the rhyme that keeps showing up when these things happen, reminding me not to take myself so seriously, get out of those cranky pants, get up, laugh and dance!

So now all is well, peace is back in action, singing along a favorite song.  Let’s use this holiday spirit to share peace and every breath and love in every heart.

Put a little love in your heart.. and the world will be a better place and the dish will come home with the spoon!

 

Feng Shui, Full Moon in Leo,
I’m With Leo! Feng Shui, The Moon In Leo and YOU

I’m With Leo!

I know who to hang with,

I Love Leo, I Love the Moon and I Love You.

OOoooo what a little feng shui can do for you!

Many of you have heard me sing this tune..

Feng Shui reminds us to look to nature for inspiration.

Look to the rainbows, the sunrise and sunsets.
Mother Nature has it covered!

She brings us the Moon in Leo – Sundown Thursday August 18 to Sundown August 19.

Get ready for power! Set your intentions for the biggest day  filled with LOVE – the most powerful of the year!

This is the perfect time to begin things during this new phase.

There is so much light that whatever we put into motion will progress much faster than any other time of the year.

Be mindful of our thoughts, words, actions.

This is the day to choose our thoughts with divine intention.

This is the day to choose our words and actions specifically for what we desire.

We are human tuning-forks!

Whatever we put out there is what we will attract!

Like attracts Like.

Be The Light.

Be The Love.

Mother Nature will take it from there.

Namaste; The Light In Me Recognizes the Light In You – Let’s Share the Light.

Fun With Maria Mirkovich on Family Today

I had so much fun with Maria taping her show “Family Today with Maria Mirkovich”

Enjoy!

Sometimes We Just Need Some Happy

 

Sometimes we just need some happy, no reason, no rational explanation required.
Take a Happy 30 Second Vacation with Lois

Enjoy!

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Embrace All Which You Can Become

“When I Let go of what I am I become what I might be..” ~ Lao Tzu
Can You?

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Experience the Joys of the Rain

Enjoy the pitter patter of the rain,  smile as you take 2 deep breaths and you are ready for everything as you take a 30 second vacation™  with Lois

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