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Surfing in My Living Room – My New Normal of Mind Body Care Connection by Lois Kramer-Perez CHt

I have had lots of conversations with friends, family, clients, and colleagues regarding the current state of our world during this COVID-19 situation. The emotions vary from anger, frustration to relief and a new sense of peace.


While you cannot control what is happening around you, you can control your choices and how you respond rather than react.

Create your new normal with healthy choices – fill yourself up with beneficial energy.

I have had many conversations where people are finding time to nourish themselves with activities they used to just think about, such as:  regular meditation, reading time, exercise and creative time: art, writing, music, dance.

What gift have you given to yourself during these past few months?

Take the good stuff with you! Leave the gunk behind!

I am not interested much in traditional exercise – but I am finding I sit way too much at my desk typing and zooming!  I took out my “simply fit board” which I bought after watching an episode of Shark Tank and proceeded to twist my way to surfing the waves of Hawaii! Not only did I get a good physical work out, my imagination had fun too!
I will be taking my “simply fit board” out of my isolation time with me. 

What beneficial new behavior will you take to your new way of living?

Is there something else you find you want to leave behind?

Make a plan – when you are ready to let go of something – replace it something you choose, otherwise a random choice will be made for you.

Are you putting the needs of others ahead of your own, finding your needs moving further away from the top of your list?  What would happen if you took some time for yourself?

What would happen if you said to your family:
“I am going to take some time for me, see you in 1 hour.”?  

Make a plan, take some time for yourself. Notice how good it feels to feel good.

Your mind body connection helps you care for yourself as you begin noticing how your body is talking to you. What is happening in your mind is directly connected to your body. Your thoughts are constantly sending messages to your body with information. These messages can cause you to; clench your jaws, tighten your shoulders, stiffen your back or cramp your legs, just to name a few. These messages are creating patterns which your body become familiar expressing on automatic pilot. Change your reaction to response when you notice the messages your body is speaking.

Choose to redirect your attention on a regular basis, by becoming aware of your body, noticing how it feels. You will notice when your shoulders are moving up into your ears and when your jaw begins to clench. You know exactly what to do! Take a smiling breath and release that built up tension.

Here are a few simple things to include in your day:
Set your intention for the day before you get out of bed stretch like a cat taking a few deep breaths, smiling as you connect with your intention.

 –Notice how your body feels, set a parameter for noticing how it feels when you are relaxed, focused, and clear, so you can redirect your attention once you notice a physical change.

 –Take two deep breaths every hour, after completing a task, a series of phone calls or as you notice your body tensing. Focus on 2 deep belly breaths, smile, and exhale stress, stiffness, and stress.

Stand up and move, especially when you are sitting for long periods of time. March in place for 20 steps with your arms swinging.

 –Drink lots of fresh pure water, this not only keeps you hydrated, but will nudge your bodies to get up every so often.

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Smile into your breath, your cells will smile right back, and those around us will smile back too.

Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt.  Certified Feng Shui, NLP, NAP Practitioner. A catalyst for change, inspiring you to seek and create new possibilities in your life with feng shui for your space and your soul. Get your free “ten-minute tune up” at http://www.loiskramerperez.com and  http://loiskramerperez.com/30-second-vacation-with-lois/ for a fun way to redirect your thoughts. Schedule your free discovery your shui call at http://www.callwithlois.com

 

 

IT’S NOT MINE! TOOLS FOR MANAGING STRESS IN DAILY LIFE

“It’s Not Mine!”
Uh-Oh- I notice a feeling – all of a sudden, it’s the feeling of impatience – but wait a moment, I am having a great day, where did this come from? It must be information my body is noticing.
Any feeling we have ever experienced is a vibration our body remembers.
We are human tuning forks, so it makes sense when we are in a remembered vibration we are triggered, those are the subtle signals.

How about when we are in the midst of a discussion and the other person is emotional, or we are next to someone who is afraid – vibrating terror – yep – we connect with those too.

This happened to me, although I didn’t know it at the time. Sitting next to my 5-year-old sister in a blackout, with just a flashlight between us, she began to cry. So, her 9-year-old big sister, me- started crying too.
Before I knew it we were both wailing in terror! My dad came running in “what’s wrong?” All I could do was sob “I don’t know” I recall I was feeling really scared. I now know my sisters fear triggered mine,

We have the ability to change emotional patterns in our life.
We can learn to manage the stress we are bombarded with in our daily lives.
The first step is changing our relationship to these charges of energy we feel which show up as emotions, triggered by events, others, scents or even sounds. I am sure we have all experienced walking into a room and noticing it feels a bit chilly, as if an argument had just taken place, or sense that something just doesn’t feel right.

Our bodies respond to information based on what it knows, for instance – if we feel the emotion of impatience, our body will recall chemicals flooding throughout our body supporting that feeling. The more we confirm the feeling of impatience – the stronger the support becomes.
We then decide that we are impatient.

That is our reaction.

We do this all day long, unaware it may not even be our experience, but someone else’s.
Our reaction has us believe that We Are that feeling, impatience, we then begin to “judge” how we are feeling, which only strengthens the impatience, creating distraction.

This reaction happens in an instant.

As we change our experience noticing and responding to these feelings, we become aware.
We have the ability to use new tools to begin moving from “reacting” to “responding”

Here are a few tips to get you started:
First: Notice the feeling that arises and how your body is responding – do not judge it, become aware that this is just information, it is not who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are not that feeling.
Acknowledge you have felt this feeling before, and you will feel it again in your lifetime. Notice, this is just how your body responds to this particular information. Take 2 deep breaths.

Second: Redirect your thoughts: Replace the thought with something positive: such as:
This feels like frustration, but I am not frustrated, my body is responding to this situation based on its familiar reaction. Now that this is done, I feel relieved, clear and grounded, all of those distractions from this situation are gone. I am focused, I feel positive, I am refreshed, and I am grounded and clear.

Do Not Judge Yourself, Be Gentle With Yourself… As we practice noticing these feelings little by little, we can begin to reduce the intensity of the feeling and shorten the duration of the experience, little by little, breath by breath. We soon find that we can notice these feelings without becoming distracted or overwhelmed. We enjoy our new relationship with all of our feelings through awareness. Life best enjoyed as we are participating and experiencing.
Lois Kramer-Perez, CHt. is a Certified Feng Shui Practitioner & Educator working with people creating healthy abundant lifestyles embracing the feng shui principles for people, places and things. Visit https://loiskramerperez.com/30-second-vacation-with-lois/ to view Lois’ videos, a fabulous tool to help you redirect your thoughts, it only takes 2 deep breaths. Lois would love to hear from you, contact her at lois@loiskramerperez.com 201.906.5767