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Disappointment or Inspiration? You Choose.

Disappointment or Inspiration?

Have you ever had the excitement of a new adventure and then boom – when it began you found yourself deflated and disappointed?

What did you do?

Did you walk away?

Or did you continue?

Here is my story, it is not a new one, I have played this role before, and each time I learn a little more.

I was asked to perform in a holiday show, yippee! I am all excited to find out what my roles will be, which songs will I sing and will I have a solo???

I receive my assignment; my solo is a rap song – a segment of “Monster”
No! I don’t rap! I don’t know this song.

Inside I felt like a spoiled brat stamping their feet in protest, but I just smiled and hid my disappointment.

Then I realized something, my desire to be in the show, to be part of the production, to be a part of the magic everyone around me was sharing went beyond my own selfish needs.
 
I decided I would learn that song and perform it with my all!
I arranged a private session with the director/producer to learn how best to perform this rap.
I practiced and practiced and practiced.
I embraced the character and the costume.

I learned that this was the perfect song for me.

I learned to stretch outside of my comfort zone.

I reflected to the other times I was “disappointed” in an assignment, what happened?

I stretched, I grew, I created success.

My message is clear, when disappointment arrives, rejoice!
Because success is just around the bend, and you must take the action to make it happen.

Be grateful for this gift.

A Fortunate Blessing.

That’s Fabulous Feng Shui!

Dowsing
Pause, Breathe, and Now What?
Pause, Breathe, Play.
Sometimes the stage is set for us.
What can we do when circumstances are out of our control?
Go with the flow? Let it go?
Hmmm..  sometimes we do resist.  and that famous saying is “what we resist persists”
When we are stressed and someone says “Relax” – do we?
I don’t!
It has to come from within, it has to be our choice.
Create a new model.
Decide to Pause, when needed or when that is the best choice.
Choice. Decide to Choose.
How Do We Begin?

Our bodies respond to information based on what it knows, for instance – if we feel the emotion of anxiety, our body will recall the chemicals that support that feeling, the more we confirm the feeling of anxiety – the stronger the support becomes.  Now we are going to begin to change our relationship to how we notice and respond to these feeling. We move from “reaction” to “responding”

We feel the effects of charges of information we pick up all the time, as we “react” to a thought, it connects with our emotions, our body has a memory of how it reacts to these feelings, chemicals which support that feeling are sent rushing through our body, this our typical “reaction.” We then believe that We Are that feeling, we are frustrated, or we are angry, and then we begin to “judge” ourselves & how we are feeling, which only strengthens these feelings, creating distraction,

We begin, becoming aware, we pay attention and notice when we begin to feel a strong emotion – before we “react” and decide we are angry, upset, distracted by these “negative thoughts”, begin to redirect ourselves.

First: Notice the feeling that arises and how your body is responding – do not judge it, become aware that this is just information, it is not who you are, it doesn’t define you, you are not that feeling.

Acknowledge you have felt this feeling before, and will feel it again in your lifetime, but it is not who you are, it will not overwhelm you,

Second: Redirect your thoughts: Replace the thought supporting that feeling with something positive: such as: This feeling dealing with “x” feels like frustration, but I am not frustrated, that was just information as to how my body was responding to this situation, now that this is done, I feel relieved, clear and grounded, all of those distractions from this situation are gone. I am focused, I feel positive, I am refreshed, I am abundant.

We can create the state we can choose to become.
We practice our new power and state of being.
Practice Choosing.
Practice Being.

Play! Enjoy Life ~Because we can!

If you would like to hear more about this empowering tool, contact Lois at lois@loiskramerperez.com  she would love to set up a call to to tell you more.